dance after the dinner speeches etc. help!!
2007-07-15 03:06:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Please pick one time and why
2007-07-15 03:10:44 · update #1
Thanks everyone, we booked at another church for 3pm after all. BTW, is it just me or did most ppl who responded sound extremely hostile? I was only looking for opinions as to which of the two was better not that I was looking forward to leaving ppl hanging for 6 hrs or so. geez, relax ppl it was just a question. Thanks!! :)
2007-07-16 06:46:21 · update #2
That is too long of a time gap for both you 2 AND your guests. What in the world are people supposed to do for those "5" or so hours inbetween? What are "YOU" gonna do for those 5 hrs?
Alot of guests may be very put off by this, feeling as though you're expecting EVERYBODY to wait around this ENTIRE day for 'you'...
And what sort of fun are you going to be offering your guests (who just had to wait ALLLL day for the reception) with only one hour of dancing after all those speeches that probably only 3% of your guests care to hear in the first place.
I was just recently AT a wedding/recept where the speeches drug on FOREVER! Guests were actually LEAVING in the middle of them...best man, 2 MOH + a letter read from an absent due to "went into labor" BM, mom of bride, dad of groom, grandparents (TWO sets!) for the bride, grandmother of groom, plus someone that I don't even KNOW what the relation was.....it was SO BORING!!! Even the bride and groom I think were a little put off by all these speeches.
If there's NO other options for changing your reception times to try to make it longer (ie-5 to ?)...then you may SERIOUSLY want to change your ceremony time to a later one -at least to 3 or 4 pm?--still may leave 2-3 hrs to kill but that's not a BAD as 5!
My ceremony is at 3 w/my reception starting at 5-dinner PROMPTLY at 5:30. We're having both at my parents farmhouse therefore there's no "travelling" from place to place. We're using the hour or so inbetween the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the recep as our "cocktail hour" while the finishing preparations are being set up (food wise) in the party/wedding tent we purchased for the recept. We will also be mingling w/the guests during this time as well.
This way...there's not an "all day" wait, things will seem to move fluidly, and they will not have to also sit around for an additional hour or so waiting for dinner to be served once the recept has started.
2007-07-15 03:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is too long for people to wait around. What do you expect them to do? If you can't get the reception hall until 7, don't have the ceremony at 12:30. Have it around 5:30 if the two venues are close.
I would be extremely annoyed at the long wait. You are taking up the entire day and not giving people anything to do. You need to rework your times to be more convenient for your guests.
2007-07-15 10:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it? You can't spend all that money and just have only 1 hour to dance. You and your guests will be unhappy.
It's much easier to get a minister to perform a ceremony anyplace, anywhere than it is to book a place for a reception (which is your biggest cost). So arrange a different place, different time, and minister to perform the ceremony and allow yourself 20 minutes for the receiving line, 1 1/2 hours for dinner and speeches, and at least 3 hours for dancing. It will take you and hubby at least 1 hour just to go around to each table and chat with guests and thank them for coming.
2007-07-15 10:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a LONG time between the ceremony and reception. what do you have planned in between that for any out of town guests?
So I'd choose 6:30pm, since its the earliest one.
Can't you do a 3pm reception? or even a 2pm one?
2007-07-15 10:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to a wedding where the cermony was early, and the reception was at dinner time. I don't know what you mean by only having 1 hour for dinner, speeches, etc.... Why would there only be 1 hour?
Your guests will find something to do in the mean time - or if you are the guest - go to the movies while you are waiting for the reception to start!
2007-07-15 10:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by JQ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is too long a period to wait. If you have to do it this way, make it two separate venues. Almost like having the reception o a different day. Also, you will have to make it informal, as no one is going to wait around in full dress for all that time.
2007-07-15 10:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by meowqueen1953 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6:30pm and reception at 7pm!! I have never been to a ceremony and had to wait for the reception. You let the guest eat first, then start the speeches and finally the dance.
CONGRATS!
2007-07-15 10:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by MB-n-KC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. That's way too much time between ceremony and reception. Not convenient for your guests.
Have a 6 pm wedding immediately followed by reception. Or have a noon wedding immediately followed by a brunch reception.
2007-07-15 10:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Suz123 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just where do you expect your guests to go and what do you expect your guests do in between 12:30pm and 7pm?
If I were invited to a wedding like this, I would just skip the wedding and show up at the reception!
2007-07-16 13:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Don't make people wait - I would just go home & NOT come back! Sorry, that's not going to work & is RUDE as hell to your guests. Your reception needs to happen right after your ceremony. People do not have all day to wait on you.
2007-07-15 14:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋