I have this young friend and I have been helping him for a few years because he is suffering hard times....I have lean him a lot of money while out of work and for me it feels like the last straw when I gave him a nice birthday present and he shoved it in his pocket without a word then I spent the day moving him and when we finished he hugged me and said goodbye without a thank you and I have not heard a word in a over week...everyone says I am nuts to help him but I am that kind of person..What do you think?
2007-07-15 02:17:39 · 18 answers · asked by bruce b 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
been there done that. when the bank went dry, the so called friends left. now three years later, I get an email she wants to be friends again. most likely either needs a place to live or needs more money. she lost my friendship because she has no plans on paying me back. not even a mention of paying me back either. took them into my home because they lost there home, a rental which the where living that belonged to her sister. feed them, gave them money and we out out and guess who paid. when she did take me out with my two children who are adults, she paid only for hamburgers. a cheap place. by the time I finished she owes me over five thousand dollars. I help her and her husband pay bills and many other things. so I understand how you feel. I will never be friends with her and her husband again. they cannot even keep jobs. he is 59 and she is 39. always going in and out of hospitals and never paying there bills either. they owe everyone. this was done right after I had just lost my husband of thirty five years, three and half years ago.
2007-07-15 02:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bless your little heart, so this is whats ben eating you all day, well i know how you feel cuz i've ben down that road also. the lord will bless and keep you if you keep up the good kindness but mind you just don't over do anything that you do fer others, take care of you, don't worry, be happy. nothing last forever.'' don't forget to say your prayer. good things come to those who wait. heard that? count yo many blessings, most of all good luck in the near future, yeah never look back, keep going farward, got that?
2007-07-15 04:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Babybear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say because there are two sides to every story. We don't know anything about his personality, only a few random actions... or lack of actions.
You said he's going through a rough time, are you always at your politest when times are that rough?
If everyone who says you're nuts knows what he is like, then I would go with what they say because they are objective and see the whole story.
More importantly- how long are you going to allow yourself to be used?
2007-07-15 02:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it definately sounds as if he's taking everything you've done to help him for granted, and probably taking advantage of you. I don't know if he's using you or not.....does he ever call you just to catch up, and show an interest in your life, or is it only ever so you can do him a favour? If that's the case, then he is probably just using you. You need to decide if he is someone you need to keep in your life or not. Good luck.
2007-07-15 02:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer gay, yet I even have particularly some acquaintances who're, so i'm comfortable to the situation. I often in basic terms flippantly ask the guy to apply a distinctive terminology, and clarify that it may be like somebody asserting "OMG, it is so immediately!!!" utilising a unfavourable connotation. particularly some people in no way think of approximately it that way, and that they pay attention. the individuals who do no longer and snigger at you're no longer properly well worth the situation.
2016-12-10 12:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by selders 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a friend that I thought she was my friend but she only want to use me and put me down.,I understand that you are that kind of person(you know.,will give everything for your friend and always willing to help him/her) beacause I also am,.well I'm not saying your stupid or nuts because you are NOT, youre friend is the one who's WRONG.,don't be upset its him/her loss not yours,. because there are so many people in this world.,and almost 99% are pretenders(pretending with good intentions and pretending with bad intentions) so just move up with other friends.,except for him/her., but if you think you can change him/her and start over...go ahead!!!
2007-07-15 03:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♥мѕ●ρεасн♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think to help somebody in his distress then just do it without expecting any formal or informal recognition, if you find a satisfaction from your conscience. It will bring not only a good feelings but helps you in digesting several odds in our lives.
2007-07-21 19:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nilanjana B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this !! but you got used ! ! a REAL FRIEND would never,act that way !! STOP helping HIM !! i have the same problem right now. cut your losses you are better off, without a friend like that !!
2007-07-15 02:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to let them get their own independance. It's true some people will take and take and not even think to say thank you because they just expect it.
2007-07-15 02:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay true to yourself but dont let yourself be disrespected. alsto you probably dont do something for someone for the recognition or the thanks, you do it to do something nice for someone. just think of all the many people in the world in do selfless actions and dont get much recognition until they die!! i also make the fact others dont appreciate me spur me on to want to appreciate those who do things for me even more!
2007-07-15 02:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋