My two yr old was calling for me this morning on a few different occassions and I was not answering him (in the bathroom brushing teeth) So, my mother decides to answer his "mom" call. I let that go... Then he was calling for me again and I heard her answer him "yes what is it" 3 more times! I flat out told her not to answer him when he calls for mom because I'm the mother. She denied she was doing it.
But I reminded her it was just this morning and she did it a few times and to stop it.
How, in a non offending manner, do I tell her NOT to do that anymore?
She answers him as if she is the mom... when he calls "mom" she answers "yes what is it?"
2007-07-15 01:13:15 · 11 answers · asked by tish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not a new mother! I have 3 boys ages 9, 5, and 2...
We are living with her at the time because I am going thru a divorce with their father.
2007-07-15 01:33:04 · update #1
OMG! I have 3 kids to take care of and if I hear my 2yr old calling me while the other two are arguing and I'm trying to be a mediator to them in the morning excuse me! You people are way too judging... I am a good mother and So sorry if one morning out of 700 mornings he happens to call out and I don't answer! GOD BLESS U ALL! have a great day!
2007-07-15 01:36:41 · update #2
as a matter of fact I am paying her mortgage, and I am helping her through cancer. All I ask is she call herself "nana" is that really that difficult to understand?!? weird... like i said one morning out of 700+ and I'm a bad mom... yea ok
2007-07-15 01:51:45 · update #3
it really wasn't that big of a deal ppl... i was jw if anyone else had to address a similar situation.. me and my mom are close and we're both very open to eachother, so we say what is on our minds. anyway... have a good day
2007-07-15 02:35:04 · update #4
When you are her age, you will do the same thing. You are a new mother, you don't have alot of experience raising a child and it doesn't seem at this point you have more than one. Haven't you been in a store and have some kid call out "mom" and half the store either stops dead in the tracks and looks around, or they answer.
Don't be so insecure that you make a big deal out of something so trivial. If your son can't tell the difference between mom and grandmother then you have bigger problems than her answering for you.
2007-07-15 01:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Act like your the mother, and answer your child. She cannot take over being the mother if you are doing all you can to be a good one. If this happened " 3 more times" then you are ignoring him and she is getting tired of hearing him call, and answers herself. How hard is it to answer, You aren't brushing your teeth all that many times!! Sounds like you live at home and its ok for mom to do it when you don't want to be bothered with the child.
2007-07-15 01:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand a world. 1. What does the door in the walk way have to do with you waking up with watery eyes? :S 2. What does the fact that your grandmother and mother were in the living room have to do with you and your brother not being able to go through the door? 3. Who was sick, your brother or the cat? 4. If it was just a dream don't pay attention to it, and I think you should probably put this in another category. Maybe psychology? Philosophy? Dream Interpretation!?
2016-05-18 01:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is OK for her to give that whole brood food and shelter , then she gets picked on for answering . How would you like to be out in the street and fending for yourself?
Spit the frig-gin' toothpaste out or whatever else you have in your craw and take care of your child . He called you more than once I bet and she is fed up with you .
Her entire life is changed , did you ever think of that ? Patience goes down the tube when we get older .
Did you ever think of that ?
Sure she loves you all but YOU have to show appreciation . Don't make that woman's life miserable .
Remember to get plenty of support money from the father and re-pay your mother !
2007-07-15 01:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't going to answer this question at first because it really hit home and hun this is happening to me with adult children who have children (my grandchildren). My problem all started with a marriage breakup but to this day i have no idea why my own children and own mother have done this. I did go to councelling because my children would not meet with me to discuss it. I will tell you now that even though i can't change any of them, names don't mean a thing when i know in my mind they know who mom is. I am always here for them and they know it. They have set the boundries and i have no control over it. My advice to you is to not get too upset about it as long as your child is still calling you mom and maybe you should give a little here when obviously your mother is there with you obviously helping. Try and sit down with your mother when the time is right and just talk to her about your concerns. Please, don't lose your mother of something so small. I know its not easy being a young parent but we all tend to be "thats my child" mothers and thats fine but remember your little one still is small and as long as his needs are being met that is the important thing. He will always know who you are as long as you are in his life. Don't let this get out of control. Please talk to her. She is your mother and i am sure she is willing to sit and talk to her child by the sounds of it. Take a deep breath and really sit and think of all the things your mother has helped you with. Sounds to me you are one lucky person to have a mother that sticks by you and your little one. Good Luck
2007-07-15 02:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by wishyouwerehere1@rogers.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to help you out. But if she does it after you ask her not to, there is a problem.
Teach your little one to come to you to ask questions. I did this with mine because I do not like calling back and forth through the house to communicate. If he is in dire straights and calls for you and you can't go, maybe it would be better if your mom did help.
Another thing, and this is too easy, your mom could say "Mom is busy, can Grandma help you?" All of us end up setting boundaries with our parents. Your mom should understand.
2007-07-15 01:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound immature and insecure to me. Young too. You should have spit out your toothpaste and answered your kid. I hope when you chastised your mother you did it an a gentle way. Now...grow up and be a mom yourself and take care of your kid.
2007-07-15 01:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want her to interfere, move out. Otherwise, nothing you say is going to change her actions, obviously. See if there is another family member who can help you or if the state has a program that will help.
2007-07-15 01:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God people like you make me sick! If you dont want your mother to answer then respond to your son yourself when he calls! Be a mother for gods sake! No wonder your mother answers him because it probably drives her nuts that you ignore him or take your sweet time getting to him. Grow up and be glad you have a grandmother in his life who loves him! Many people have lost their parents and wish they could be there for their grandchildren.
2007-07-15 01:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by councillor 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You bluntly tell her you are his mother and if she wants you to have an issue with her, then keep answering your son when he calls for his mom and you will show her how much of an issue you can have about this.
2007-07-15 01:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋