She has already let us lose him to the father once. Now we have this week on week off crap. The baby is miserable but since we are just grandparents we have no rights. The father is just as bad as she is. I am so torn between continuing to live being held hostage by her or throwing her out and losing the baby. Should I just keep my mouth shut and enjoy my grandson (who is more my son)? Do you know of any cases in TN where grandparents have won rights over parents that I might look into?
2007-07-15 00:27:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Definately.
You need to start keeping logs and diaries on EVERYthing.
Photos and phone logs...anything you can that shows and proves what you say. Any dirt you can find, use.
It isnt easy but it is possible.
2007-07-15 00:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by colorado43 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents do have rights and I would go see a lawyer who deals with those type of cases, a family lawyer. I would make sure you document everything your daughter has done and include dates. You nor that baby should have to live that way, your daughter is using the baby as a pawn to get what she wants. And it shounds like she is winning. Go see a lawyer and see what it would take to get gaurdianship of the grandchild. Then if your daughter gets her act together and decides to grow up, she could get the child back, only after you agreeing and going back to court. You are already providing a home for both your daughter and grandchild, and if you do win gaurdanship and your daughter continues to throw her fits, make her get out on her own. She needs to grow up and be a responisible parent. Maybe her having to move out will help make her see how good she had it with you. But go to a lawyer who deals with family law and do it soon. I know of several grandparents who have gaurdianship over their grandchildren, not in tn but i am sure some of the laws are the same. But you need to put an end to that turmoil and do what is in the best interest of the child. It may make your daughter mad but, she isnt being a parent and needs to grow up and quit throwing her childish fits. Also, does the father pay child support? Is his name on the birth certificate? Shame on both those parents!Good luck, but go see a lawyer!
2007-07-15 01:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel like i know what you are going through at this time........but my son has 3 children and the mother just got out of prison......my son went to prison for a time too......and their greatgrandmother took care of the 2 girls and 1 boy...the thing is the mother is not straightening up at all.......the kids are so attached to this greatgrandma and now she had a heart attack....but grandparents can get guardianship or complete custudy of their grandchildren.....i think the courts our leaning more on leaving children with their family.......my son has straightened up a lot but the children remember so much that has happened in their young lives...i know how you are feeling......i am so upset that this daughter in law is going to go ahead with her way of life and have the kids with her when she does something wrong.......i have decided to leave it is gods hands cause it has made me sick thinking about all this........they have these innocent children and the children do suffer and learn some terrible things.........i am the grandmother but my doctor will not let me even try and keep the kids....they do not listen to me anyway......they are 3 6 7 and it is really a sad shame........i am sorry i do not know what else to say but if you have the money or to seek legal counsil i know in this state the grandparents does have some rights..........
2007-07-15 00:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for your little grandson,it must be terrible for him to be torn between everyone the way he is and jostled around from one place to another.
I really wish children didn't have to suffer like this.
It isn't fair to them because they are so innocent and don't really understand why these things are happening to them.
I'm glad that at least he has you to depend on for security and structure.
But as for obtaining parental rights I think if you can prove both of his parents are unfit to take proper care of him then yes it is possible to do.
In California leaving children with their Grandparents to raise has become almost epidemic because the parents are too irresponsible to take care of them.
Your a good person for caring so much about your grandson and being the only person he has to look up to.
God bless you and good luck.
2007-07-15 00:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to document everything that goes on. You should consult with an attorney to see what your rites are. This can become a long drawn out affair, and depending on how much money your daughter has to fight with (doesn't sound like much) could become expensive. You need to put your grandson first to see what is best for him, and forget about your daughter. This could be a wake up call for her to become a better parent. Make her move out, but make sure the child stays with you. You have to prove that both are unfit in order to get him.
2007-07-15 00:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you love your grandson dont let him stay with your daughter.
call the police and/or department of social services and report your daughter. if your lucky they might take the baby away for a few days and you as the grandparents and the childs parents being unfit to care for him, would have the option to keep him yourself, although if you did take him you would have to kick your daughter out of the house
2007-07-15 00:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by jreeses2673 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If both parents prove to be unfit. Custody is all about what is best for the kids interest. If both parents are unfit, and the court decides the the state should take the child instead, i strongly believe you can take the custody.
2007-07-15 01:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by lilia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the courts always say the child should be with the mother,but if you can prove in court,that she is an unfit mother,and father,you should be able to win custody.(the child is the most important thing)not the parents,so if you have to take them to court to save the childs saftey,DO IT. GOOD LUCK....concerned reader...and by the way,explain to her it is a privalige to have a child,not a right,some of us would have died for a child but couldnt,because of health reasons,she gets it given to her,,and throws it away,i have no sympothy for her.
2007-07-15 00:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by marie e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will take her to court and sing like a canary about everything she has done and drag her name through the mud. So, does she really want to keep running her mouth to you?
2007-07-15 01:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your situation...try to pray God will help you solve this problem.
Better keep the mouth shut and pray!
Take very good care and God bless you all with His Love!
2007-07-15 00:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by liveasahb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋