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Imagine you have been attracted to your sister in law for years.
You love your brother very much.
Your marriage is a disaster.
You have always flirted mildly with sister in law but have never pushed the envelope and she has never seemed to reciprocate your attraction to her.
Lately, though, things have changed and you notice she has started to "warm up" to you. She returns your flirting and you start to see the signs of a solid infatuation or maybe even love.
She is a woman you would want to spend the rest of your life with if you were not her husband's brother and if you were not married yourself.
Both your and your brother's childrend are adults now.

What do you do? Divorce your wife and start pursuing your sister-in-law? Pretend your are shocked and talk to your brother? Talk to her? Cut all contact? Other?

2007-07-15 00:16:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

14 answers

nice ..............hmmmm.......................you will be lusting after someone else , once you get w / SIL

2007-07-15 00:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by klunk 4 · 0 0

This is quite possibly the worst case scenario you could ever imagine for your life.
Stay clear of your sister in law and do not have anything romantic to do with her no matter what.
If you pursue anything outside of a casual in law type of relationship with her you will suffer for it severely and so will she and your wife and her husband and your children and so on.
She is your brothers wife not yours.
If you are having problems in your marriage then I suggest you deal with it in another way preferably in a way that's beneficial to you and your family.

If you want to know what I would do then here it is.
I would decide that whenever I'm around her I would keep our conversation very casual and discourage any flirting you might encounter by her.
I would stop flirting with her and treat her in an appropriate manner.
You don't have anything to lose by not getting involved with her but you and she both have a whole lot to lose by becoming more than what your supposed to be..

2007-07-15 00:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sisters in Law are like a sister. This is a major no-no in any religion, any culture. NO - and I say again - NO. Talk it out with the whole family if you must, or cut all contact if you must. You must honor your vows to your own wife. You must honor your brother as yourself! For heaven's sake. FORGET IT and stay away from your brother's wife!

2007-07-15 00:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 1 0

Respect your brother and distance yourself. Get counseling for your failing marriage, and decide if you are better off with her or without her. Act accordingly and move on with your life.

Your little scenario has the potential of taking bitterness and pain to the grave for so many people. You say you are an adult, but are you a honorable man? Honorable men don't set out to destroy people they love.

2007-07-15 02:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0 0

get closer to sister in law it may be you just want her for a one night stand and it will be over don't do anything drastic until you and her are on the same page. You know maybe she is happy with your brother and her attention to you may come from that so find out fron her first and then do what makes you happy.

2007-07-15 00:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by wreaser2000 5 · 0 0

Is she a device to your lust ? grew to become into your spouse's intercourse family members inadequate for you ? Did she restrict you for the comparable ? provide up this the dirtiest crime you're doing. Your marriage is already over the 2nd you touched the different lady. Shall one earnings from the prospect if harmless & immature female, even spouse's sister is available close to you ? is this ethical duty & self-discipline of a married guy ? have you ever no worry of God, spirituality, morality, ethics & character rather well worth the call ? you are the worst exploiter of jungle animal habit. do you be responsive to what does a 'marriage' advise ?

2016-11-09 09:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by gjokaj 4 · 0 0

Don't go there. Your heading down a bad road. Its your brother. Walk away from this a never look back. It will destroy you and the whole family.

2007-07-15 01:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

look bro, since she is stilll married to your brother, it must mean that all is relatively alright with them atleat.
you go now for her, you gonna mess your relationhip up with your brother, with his kids.....
the whole situation just stinks.
get away, find some1 else.
if you've managed till now(you say your kids are adults)
then im sure you can manage alittle bit more.
look elsewhere. this will only bring disaster

gd luck buddy

2007-07-15 00:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by chuckguy 3 · 0 0

if i were you i will ask God for His divine intervention because His the only one who can solve your problem. If the Holy Spirit enters your mind and heart i'm sure that's the time your problem will come to an end. Pray always

2007-07-15 00:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by gemini 2 · 1 0

This is probably the biggest no-no in a family. You need to back off before you destroy both your families. Seriously.

2007-07-15 00:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Christy G 2 · 0 0

That's your brother! Just forget it and just say " ha I see what my bro see's in her" . So many other ladies out there. Probably some just like her in everyway. It is your brother. Don't.

2007-07-15 00:21:12 · answer #11 · answered by polystyrene_high 2 · 0 0

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