Standards too High?

Question

Ok so I have been single going on over 7 years now. My problem is, is I think my standards are too high but I am afraid to lower them. Basically, I just got out of the military, came back to a small town and I know no one. I have tried to get out and meet new people but its easier said then done. What I look for is a woman who is young (20 to 26), attractive, that has a good head on her shoulders, thats not into drama, and has goals in life that dont consist of how much booze she can drink in one night or how many drugs she can take in a lifetime. So I am not sure what to do anymore. It seems that all the women that are my age (24) or close to are drama queens, or want little or nothing to do with me. So I am not sure how to approach this. Maybe some outside input would help me make some proper decisions. Also I noticed that 99.9 percent of the ladies I consider attractive know they are, and thus just blow me off anyways because I dont meet their standards I suppose.

Well as far as what I wrote the first time I made it sound like looks is all I am about. By no means is that the case. You just cant describe everything that you are looking for and try to make your case known at the same time with your words being limited. Please dont think I am some shallow person, that is only out for the supermodel woman. Thats by no means the case.

Answer 1

I am the same myself these days, i have very high standards mainly due to having 1 too many bad relationships in the past, i think it is totally fine that you will not accept anything less than your idea of perfection, why should you? a relationship, a good one that is, can last you a lifetime, that's a long time to settle for second best, the only thing i would say that you possibly could go easier on is woman drinking, because i think that it is a phase most young people go through these days, it wont last forever, and the chances are if you started dating she would much rather be going for meals and such with you rather than drinking her weight in alcohol with her friends, just a point to consider, i wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

Let me let you in on a little secret.
A womans attractiveness is only going to last a short time and then her appearance will start to change as she becomes older and matures.
If you base a womans self worth on her looks and she's still in her 20's when you meet then what are you going to do when time starts to take it's toll when she's around 35 or so and begins to look old and not so vibrant?

My advice to you is to judge a woman by how she is on the inside instead of what she looks like on the outside.
Because whatever she's like on the inside will only improve with time where what she looks like on the outside will only diminish.

I'm much older than you and have lived enough to last 3 life times and know most of the mistakes that people make that they live to regret later on in life.

And judging a person by their appearance is the #1 biggest mistake anyone can make.

And besides if you find a lady that your emotionally and mentally compatible with in time no matter what she looks like she will begin to appear to be the most beautiful woman you have ever seen.

Don't expect too much in the looks department but do expect what you are searching for in what kind of lady you think you will get along with and love for the rest of your life.

Good luck and peace be with you.

Answer 3

Where would you expect to meet the kind of woman you describe? Go there, do things that interest you and look for the kind of woman you are hoping for to have similar interests. If you just life the kind of life you want, the same kind of people will appear.

Answer 4

I've dated 0 people out of the people who have asked, I have extremely high standards.

Answer 5

You're thinking way too hard about this. When you're looking for someone, you will find no one. Also, it's getting too technical. Where are the emotions? Just date around for now. Have fun. When you least expect it, you'll find someone. Just don't bring your checkoff list and a marker along on these dates.

Answer 6

no ofense but your image of 20 to 26 year old women is wrong. and maybe if you lower you're standards youll find a girl who isnt as superfical and more down to earth then the ones your getting

Answer 7

Well maybe you should try looking outside ur town and expand your search because it seems like your looking in the wrong places here. but really just have patience and maybe you'll just find someone along the way :D

Answer 8

attraction in a lady is not anything really my friend that is your fall right their. If you would look for the personality and then you would find the right kind of lady and she would be everything you hoped for.

Answer 9

you know, if you`re looking for a life partner, never EVER put standards...i used to be like that.."he has to be this tall, he has to have these eyes,he has to.." and the list goes on...if you`re looking for a momentary fling, then be my guest, but if you`re looking for love, bud, i suggest you drop the superficial attitude...girls tend to be annoyed when they realize that you chose them just becoz of an awesome butt or perfectly flawless skin..chose them for who they are, not for what they are..

goodluck on that.. :)

Answer 10

Standards too High? Possibly.
Question too long? Definitely!