I have been divorced for 2 years now, and separated 1 yr prior. I have 2 children who live w/father. I have been on the move for 3 yrs bc didn't want the divorce, and couldn't accept reality. It finally caught up with me. I am scheduled for court in 2 days to show my work history for the past 6 months. I have not worked since the split up. I have someone who provides the necessities for my survival in exchange for housework, helping out w/ his business (Record Keeping/Ordering), and helping him due to his health problems. For clothes, I go the clothing pantries, for food-I go to food pantries. What is expected from me when I go in front of this judge and have no income? I did withdraw my 401 K to pay off my debt ($20,000) But now that is depleted. Help!!! I'm really nervous. I have to prove why I'm not in contempt of court.
2007-07-14 23:22:59 · 12 answers · asked by lanlan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any parent who does not live up to their obligation to their children deserve to be punished. You owe your children and you should be ashamed of the fact you are a deadbeat mom!
2007-07-15 00:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its bs and funny how people are being so kind with their answers cause you are a woman, had you been a man theyd be telling you off and saying you deserve everything thats coming you way- so since they didnt I WILL- YOU DESERVE everything coming THATS COMING YOUR WAY! you had an obligation to your children, you birthed them, you failed them and divorce is hard but you arent the first or last to get one- so you go and disappear for 2 yrs and been on the move for 3? You know thats bs. Hope you have a good lawyer, plus you been working under the table and not paying taxes, wether you prove work or not with your notes, receipts whatever you are screwed! I dont wish you bad but what do you expect anyone to say for advice? that thers a way for you to prove your story? that they hope you arent held in contempt of court,yes id assume noone hopes that happens to you but had you been a man theyd all be lighting candles tonight praying and hoping it does happen to you! So like i said hope you got notes, hope your benefactor is there to help your story and that he provides for your survival even then their your story is some Anna Nicole BS he provides>? and you do what or if he does pay you money what do you do with it?!
2007-07-15 00:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be ordered to pay all non payments right now and make an promise of some type to pay a set program or go to jail. It's not up to the other parent anymore, it's in the hands of the court.
2007-07-14 23:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only have to testify if the case goes in front of a judge. Usually these thing are resolved before a hearing. If called to testify, all you will have to do is state that you have not received any monies( child support) form your husband. He may want to say he paid cash or some silly crap like that. Just tell the truth.
2016-05-18 00:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually they don't care if you're working or not. As long as your physicaly fit and able to work,they will set and weekly or monthly amount you will pay and order you to get a job. You already said you work in trade of board,so that will show you are able to work for money. As far as the arrearages, you will pay that in the long run. It might not be a pretty scene in court.
2007-07-15 01:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you worked for room,board and bill money then you had a job! the judge is going to ask what your rent would have been,how much your bills would have been and base his/her decision on it.you sound like you are full of sh!t to me.you worked under the tale is what you did.every dog has its day and your day is now.pay up you sleeze bag.I am sickened at how some people acted so loving and concerned for you because you are a woman.Shows how stereotypical the whole world is.They are scum just like you.
2007-07-15 07:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope you get the book thrown at you....anyone whether its male or female who does not provide for their children should be punished.....obviously you have no idea what its like to scrape and grovel to take care of children on a day to day basis and worry to death that you don't have enough for your children....
2007-07-15 02:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Spaceyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
judges have no sympathy, they say your children have to eat regardless . You must get yourself together and get a job and pay child support if the court so ordered, why did your hubby get the children ?
2007-07-14 23:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your probably going to owe back child support...and if you ever get a real job, they are going to garnish your wages...which I feel they should because even if you couldn't accept the divorce, it still shouldn't be your husbands burdon to take 100% care of the kids financially and emotionally
2007-07-14 23:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let the judge know that you have been having it bad. look him in his eye when you explain and let him know you will do what you can when you can.
judges are humans too and they know that sometime people have it rough. not saying that you might be clear of all trouble but he shoulds take in consideration than your not ballin and and not donig what you have to do to survive for yourself.
2007-07-14 23:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Gandyboy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋