Why am I having these feelings?

Question

Hi,

I'm 15 years old, and a frequenter on Yahoo Answers. I'm under another name because I'm under cover lol. I just don't want people knowing who I am.

Anyways, I might be pregnant. I've had unprotected sex 4 times in the past couple weeks with a guy that I really love. I'm dreading the 20th when my period is due, I'm hoping that it doesn't come.

How weird does that sound????????? Why would I WANT this baby??? I sure as hell don't have a lot of money or time on my hands, and I want to go to college!

Despite all this, I desperately am hoping that I'm pregnant. I don't know why, but I want one now. I don't know how the guy or my parents are going to react, but they won't be happy.

I still want this baby. Why on earth am I feeling this way? I'm 15 years old and am praying that I'm pregnant!

Answer 1

You will be a great mom.

Answer 2

I think that you may be lonely + need someone like a baby to depend on you, love you + to be their # 1.

Go to a therapist, they can really help you sort yourself out. You are only 15, thats a rough age, depression, insecurity, + everything else can bother you. If you do have sex again, PLEASE have protected sex. Its not right to bring a baby into the world when you know you really dont want one right now.

Once you have the baby, you can say goodbye to your college education for some years, your baby need caring for. And friends + social life will amount to nothing ! This is the time of your life you should be having fun- not raising a baby. Its alot of responsibility

Put yourself first right now. You have all the time in the world to have a baby. They are alot of work, think about a babysitting job that never stops, it goes on 24/7. That sound like something you really want ? If you are pregnant give the baby up for adoption if you can part with it. If you can't I wish you all the very, very best in life. : ) I am so sorry you are in this predicament. : ( All the best to you.

Answer 3

Maybe you feel that you need to have a baby with this guy to keep him as your boyfriend.Don't worry honey i felt the same when i was 15,yeah im only 16, 17 in a week now but about a year ago even though i hadn't had sex i kept thinking to myself i really want a baby,im ready and i really want a child of my own to care for.But don't,no matter how much you may want a baby right now,please don't mess up your future.Have patience and wait until you are older,have left school and have life experience under your belt.I didn't have a baby then and now looking back im so glad i didn't ,the baby would now be coming up to 2 now and right now all i wanna do do is go out have fun with my friends and just enjoy my teenage years.Because soon i will have to make my own living and fully look after myself.Please think about your future not about now.
Good luck to you honey.
x x x

Answer 4

You are desperately hoping you're pregnant because you'll get a lot of attention and also, you won't have to worry about actually taking care of or supporting the baby since your parents will have no choice but to take on that responsibility. The baby will just be something for you to play with and then hand to your mom when it starts crying or needs a diaper change. Good luck finding that "guy you really love" when you find out your pregnant.

Answer 5

A lot of girls go through this. They want a baby!

But there's things to think about. You said that you didn't have a lot of money or time for a baby. Where does that leave you?

Really, no where.

I like how the one answerer put it "education-job-money-baby". Does that make any sense?

Just hold off on the baby making for a while! Be a kid, have fun! Ride your tricycle and suck on your lollipops! Don't grow up before you have to, being an adult is A LOT of work!

And if you are pregnant, it sounds like you're very determined to be a good mom. I wish you the best!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Answer 6

i think women just have the instinct to have kids, but you are far to young for a baby. i was 20 when i had my son, and hunny i am telling you i am so tired all the time. i work and go to school also and let me just say i barely make enough money to get by. i learned the hard way. i love my son more than anything in this world, but being a young single mom is hard.

if you are not pregnant, please get on some form of birth control and make him use a condom, not only could you be pregnant at the age of 15, you could have aids or a std. this is serious, and you need to use protection every time.

Answer 7

Hi, I think you are rushing in way too fast here. Yes loving someone is not wrong and I am glad you feel this way, but you are breaking the law even sleeping with him at the mo! And how would this guy feel if you had got pregnant?
I have 3 kids but I didn't have my first till I was 23, you need to get things in the right order hun.
Education-job-money-baby
you say you wanted to go to college, show how grown up you really are and do it and come on birth control is easy, why risk it. Do you want to spend your next 15 years struggling to make ends meet and surviving on benefits?

Answer 8

Well your a women and we are all given a special gift,able to have children.Yes its very exciting to be able to conceive and carry a baby.......you have love to give and you need to be loved.A baby gives all of that and much more.Try to wait alittle longer sweetheart,a baby demands alot of love but also could put alot of stress on a young mother.As u get older and more into school ......you will mature more and look back at 15 and see you would of made a wiser decision at a older age.If you are pregnant well then there's no turning back......i just hope you have support from the father and your mother.If you are not pregnant.......do yourself a favor and contact young mothers that are struggling every day to raise there baby's and get there schooling done.Ask some advice from them.TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS

Answer 9

dont worry, ive been feeling the exact same way since i was 15 too! then around my 16th birthday i "accidentally" got pregnant and i couldn't have been happier! then 3 months later i had a miscarriage. my doctor told me it was because my body couldn't handle a baby yet and that it was common among most young teen girls. i know how you feel because every month i feel the same way, but think about it this way, would you rather wait until your older and have a happy family with the love of your life or get pregnant now and possibly lose your first child because your body's not ready! i know its hard and i feel the same way but just try to stick it out until your at least 18. good luck sweetie and i hope i helped♥ ♥ ♥

Answer 10

well i'm also 15 years old, i think it's a little crazy tha tyouare having unprotected sex but hey whatever floats your boat. i recently thought that i was in love with someone also but it turns out that he just wanted to get laid. if this guy is under the age of 18 i doubt that he will hang around to help out with the kid (if you are pregnant). yes will probably be a great mom, i just hope that the baby knows who it's father is. i also think that you should talk to your parents and tell them about all of this. they might go totally berzerk but they might understand and even appreciate you telling them what you are feeling. i know that is what my parents would want me to do if i thought about having unprotected sex. well i hope this was a help and if not im sorry good luck with your kid (if you have one).

Answer 11

it does sound weird but i have felt the same way too
im 16 now and when i was 15 i really wanted a child, but for me it was just a phase.
you should probebly think about the long term affects of a child. if you have a long term relationship with your boyfriend then there might be another chance when you are older and have a really good education