A few weeks after me and my husband got married, he left his yahoo page open on the computer and i saw him sending pictures of "himself" to an other girl. The picture were sent before we got married but I didnt see them utill after we got married.He denied it for a few weeks but the more and more I dug into it, he finaly confessed that the pictures were of him. Just this past Tuesday I was going to send him a text message telling him that i love him and to have a good day at work. Well I went through his phone (wich this is my first time ever doing becouse "I trusted him") And found that him and antother girl were chatting. He said he was trying to find out who she was and why she keep texting him and the messages read from her part.. "Are you comming by my job" "How late do you get off" things like that and his replys were.."Where do you work" What time do you get off" My question is, in a marriage is this concidered cheating and should i take him back. We also have a 2 yr. old son.
2007-07-14 22:43:14 · 19 answers · asked by B*Nessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
drop the jerk.retain a good divorce lawyer and stick it to him as hard as you can.its obvious that he is just a loser that you will never be able to trust.
2007-07-14 23:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by john h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind sharing your husband with other women then by all means take him back.
Personally, sounds like your husband is a player and not worth the emotional investment.
How could you ever trust him? He's already lied to you..
Let him "feel" the consequences, don't brush off his behavior
if you do you're in for a long road of emotional upheaval.
You cannot force or coheres right behavior, People either want to be faithful because they love their partner or they don't
There is NO MIDDLE GROUND here.
Stop allowing him to use YOU as an anchor for his insecurity.
I probably sound harsh, but i have been there done that and it's never good once they start cheating..
An old saying goes....if they do it once, they will do it again..
It's an old saying because it's a true saying.
If he Denies that he's been intimate with this woman...He is lying again.
I think people who cheat on their spouses are spineless.
They don't have the decency to end one before beginning another. Simply put......Self-centeredness.
Sad he wasn't thinking even of your son..
Give him the boot girl friend..
2007-07-15 06:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel and Nancy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this once a cheater always a cheater i know it is very hard when you have a child but you dont want to put yourself and your baby through a whole bunch unhappiness by taking this guy back cause it may be 2 or 3 months down the road but he will doit again if he is always looking for greener pastures on the other side whats the point find a man that loves you and wants to be with you and only you
I wish you the best of luck take care i know i have been there but mine was from my wife doing it to me
2007-07-15 05:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by rick k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has some explaining to do.. Marriage takes a lot of work. Ask him some questions. tell him you are jeolous. Ring the other girl and tell where you exist and what the chuck steak is she doing tugging at your man. Get all bent out of shape over it for a week and then go for some make up sex... and warn him that he will lose those jewells if he is caught a second time.
2007-07-15 07:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong whatever you choose dont let the fact that you have a 2 yr old cloud your decision making -by the way hes planning on cheating doesnt mean he will or wont but hes laying down the ground work by asking her where she works so you need to do whats best for you and yours cause he sure as hell doesnt have you in mind
2007-07-15 07:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear,the problem on your hands is that you married a boy not a man.HE hasn't stopped playing with his toys yet,HE IS BEHAVING LIKE A TEENAGER trying to find ways to outwit
you.If you catch him at one thing he moves on to the other,on and on.Let him know in no uncertain terms that you are tired of this childishness.you can not raise a child and raise him too.Send him packing to his mother,she should know what to do with him.Good riddance to bad rubbish.
addendum:
He is definitely cheating on you.This is the one you found out
I will bet my life there is many others you don't know about.I don't care how hard he cries send him packing before the second baby comes and then it will become even harder to leave him I don't know about the others who think you should sit down and talk to him.He is already doing a lot of talking with his you kow what.Right now he thinks he is too hot to handle.Kick him out now at least you know he won't be cheating under your roof.I am sorry for being so blunt, truth be told decisions like this are hard to make ,I pray that what ever decision you make will bring you peace
A Friend.
2007-07-15 06:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the guys on here tell you he is cheating then he is cheating because they hate to tell on other guys .How stupid does that sound he said he only wanted to know who she was and why she kept texting him.First how did she get his # did she just pick a # from out of her head and it just happened to be your husbands # and why did he answer someone is don't no.You no your husband was going to meet her that day. Your husband is the kind of man who cheats and always will. I was like you not to long ago my husband cheated on me and no matter what i heard or fount out myself he always have an answer to and i chose to believe him after all he was my husband but as time went on not only was he cheating on me but had be doing so for 3 years.I was devastated and so heart broken over his lying more then anything .To think the man i loved and believed in could look me straight in my eyes and convince me that he had done nothing wrong.Your husband is doing the very same thing as mine did to me.
2007-07-15 07:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't going to be faithful and he's lying about the nature of the messages. The decision is yours. Ask yourself if you can share him with other woman....because he isn't going to be faithful. And for the record....you have the right to snoop through anything you can find when you think your spouse is unfaithful. Better to know the truth than to look like a fool.
2007-07-15 06:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you "trusted him" you still spied on him. Well, there was a reason jealousy? maybe or?
It seems like he's still got that wanderlust in him he had before marriage, yes, no, maybe?
I think you'd better have a "sit-down" before things get to serious. I don't know if he actually "cheated" per se on you or, he's just on a fishing expedition but, you'd better find out.
If he's unsatisfied about something, you, your cooking, etc or, what? try and get at the root of the problem, before it's to late.
2007-07-15 05:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he hasn't physically cheated on you, it's going to be the next step, if you really want to make this work I recommend counseling. I personally wouldn't stand for something like that as it's apparent he's becoming emotionally attached to someone else...
2007-07-15 05:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by cassmeister426 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See now heres the problem with marriage exactly. People always get bent our of shape and try to controll the other person.
I say funk that.
2007-07-15 06:00:23 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋