One of my best friends is gay. Which im ok with BUT I also care about him alot. Him and I have always had a connection. Everyone tells me that him and I look at eachother like we are in love. He doesn't act like he is gay at all. We always tell eachother how much we love eachother and the other night we started kissing and stopped and it was like we were drawn back into eachother and then we continued to kiss. I dont know what to think. Please Help?!
2007-07-14 20:29:03 · 12 answers · asked by NeedinUrAdvice 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What do I do about this? Please be serious about this!!
2007-07-14 20:35:49 · update #1
He made the first move, not me..
2007-07-14 20:47:57 · update #2
Im a woman
2007-07-15 06:03:24 · update #3
Wow. . .are you see he isn't bisexual?? Did you seduce him, you naught girl?
Well, you should talk to him about if he isn't bisexual or not. . .be a friend because he's probably going through a lot
2007-07-14 20:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all seriousness, it's a decision you need to make. I mean, you and Friend obviously have a very close relationship. And that's ok. Even if you're straight and he's gay. But in order for you guys to keep a healthy relationship, something needs to be decided now....
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You're physically attracted to him, as you are to other men, and this is the first time that you have felt comfortable enough to express that. To continue this physical relationship would be a good thing because it's allowing you to be yourself -- who you've always been but could never show it.
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You aren't physically attracted to him; it's just an emotional bond. You love him very much and enjoy your close relationship. However, it would not be healthy for you two to pursue a physical relationship because you aren't really attracted to men physically. You should explain to him that you DO love him and enjoy his friendship, but that it should stay that way because to go any further would be to wreck what you guys have now.
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I think it's a great thing to have a close relationship between gay and straight men... and it's equally as great to have a relationship between two gay men. I just wouldn't want you guys to lose what you have because of this. So just talk to Friend. Be honest.
2007-07-14 21:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U act like a girl or pretty girly as you say. If other people think that, then U can C 4from there angle that -- they find odd -- U (a man acting or behaving like a girl) in straight jock type guys. For them, U r the Odd one out. Other than that, nothing matters to you if U dnt let them enter Ur mind. Ask Ur friends about it? C what do they say? If they defend U and Ur feelings? then the world sudn't matter to you. At least it sudn't. Hope that helps U
2016-05-18 00:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very easy to become attracted (both emotionally and sexually) to a gay male friend. Why? Because you do not have to present the same facade that you present while playing the mating game. You are relaxed, and when someone is completely accepting of you attraction generally follows.
But....if he said that he is gay, despite the fact that you made out, you need to accept that.
Don't sell yourself short. You deserve to be in a relationship with a guy who is heterosexual. And you should respect your best friends feelings about his sexuality. You said you were confused, not him.
2007-07-14 20:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon for a gay guy to kiss his best girl. Kissing is an act of love, but not necessarily an act of lovemaking. I have kissed girls before with tongue, but I wouldn't have sex with one. The thing is that he can share his love with you to a point. But not beyond that point. Most gay guys are also very sensual and sensitive to people's feelings. He may want to make you happy and may be willing to play touchy-feely. But don't expect him to be your true love as he is gay. Watch Will and Grace. They are often open with their feelings with each other, but are not a couple.
2007-07-14 23:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fight it you both are attracted to eachother, get moving on it, good luck to both
2007-07-15 03:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like ur gay. it seems like you like him. just treat it like a normal relationship. maybe u guys can go out.
2007-07-14 20:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
without to much bother, i would say that you are both sexually atracted to one another.
2007-07-14 20:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are so totally attracted to him
2007-07-18 11:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by shame on them 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're attracted to him.
2007-07-14 20:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋