It seems like everywhere you go and turn someone is getting married. And you hear all these stories of being together for 3 weeks, or 4 weeks and then BAM your married. Isn't there any time to get to know the person you are about to spend your entire life with? or do you just want a good f*** for a year or so and then its on to the next one. Please let me know
2007-07-14 20:25:22 · 7 answers · asked by Derek S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At a young age, many people don't have a lot of perspective. They are more impulsive, and they assume that their romantic feelings towards each other will last. Unfortunately, some people have got to learn prudence the hard way.
2007-07-14 20:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Robin K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a lot of women get married just for the wedding or for the security. Many forget to remember that marriage is just like a job, u need to make sure you are working hard at it and have good communication. I think we are seeing marriage as a trend and the important issues get pushed aside.
To answer your question a good wife/husband makes a great friend. So before you know you can stay married to someone, you need to make sure you can be best buddies with them. That is the lasting foundation for marriage. And there really isn't a specific time frame, your heart will tell you when, just make sure it's consulting your brain too so you won't make a "heat of the moment" decision.
2007-07-15 03:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mandie S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people go in with the best intentions, thinking that they really love this person that they've known a total of a few weeks. And then when real life hits and you live through the drudgery of marriage, they go, "Oh s**t! What did we do?" and quickly divorce. Because it's easy to love someone when the going is good. Much harder to love someone when the going is rough.
I think it's funy when people in high profile marriages say that they're going to be together forever, and then they divorce right away. Rather comical, really.
2007-07-15 03:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are just in a hurry or like taking risks or don't know what love is. Most of the people I know waited 7 years or so to get married. I see that more than short lived relationships going into marriage.
2007-07-15 03:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courtship was to short for these people. When you first meet someone, you are only meeting their Representative. It takes a long time for the real person to show their face.
2007-07-15 03:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that these couples convinced themselves that they are in love and they are inseparable and they will be together for eternity. Then, their relationship develops more and they probably discover that it isn't what they expected from it. Then, their disappointment leads to a divorce.
2007-07-15 03:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
called commitment many lack this now at getting married young. in my opion?
2007-07-15 03:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋