If you are a bit lazy, passive, and unambitious, is there a way to change? That is, if your philosopy is "let it be," will it ever be "seize the day?" Or should it be?
2007-07-14 20:24:53 · 13 answers · asked by Insanity 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks for the answers so far from Crashaholics, Fraxinas, and Abdul. I'm talking about myself here, by the way. I think I need a little more of the drive to get off my butt and do things. It's not that things in my life aren't working, as I'm forced to do things from a sense of responsibility, but if I were in a situation with no responsibility, I'd probably turn into a slug. How does one change?
2007-07-15 13:30:48 · update #1
I think being passive or outgoing is a personality trait. My friend and I talk about this over and over. Outgoing rule their life with their ego - it's me me me....I want, I want, I want. Nothing wrong with that- they often get what they want and outwardly appear more successful, because they are likely to talk more about 'what they have achieved'
People who 'go with the flow' and 'allow' thing to happen are often not as concerned for themselves, in a way (within limits) it doesn't matter because they are already satisfied with life as it is, so why change it? If there wasn't this sense of contentment then that person would go out and try to change it, thus becoming more active.
I think there is a balance to be met and an ideal life contains a bit of both, so you can enjoy the peacefulness and contentment of knowing everything is ok just how it is, and the excitement of a new adventure or challenge, instigated by yourself.
Why change?
In Daoist China the contemplative taoists made all the finest discoveries through a peaceful nature - not aggressio nor egoism.
Let the boisterous carry on, using up their energy in the trivial pursuit of pleasing their ego, and you and I can just observe them and wonder, as they wonder about us!!
There is a place in the universe for both, and indeed a need for both.
Don't ever feel you have to be anything other than you are. This is you, enjoy it!
If you are born again as an outgoing extrovert, you will wonder where do people find peace and contentment, why can't I have a moment to myself!!!
Let it be.
2007-07-22 09:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by sheila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a person wants to do something with his life, than just have a Positive attitude, and if you are thinking that you will do whatever it is you wanted to accomplished it will be done. I remember that old saying about the Early worm gets the Worm. I am a Married Lady who her Husband works a lot but, he does not do anything around the House to help me, so I am a Cook, not only for him but to the rest of my Family, housekeeper, Book keeper, chauffer, referee, and a Gardener which the latter is my favorite chore to do. No complaints from me but I sure would like someone give me a pat on the head, and say they appreciate me, for doing all of the stuff I do. And no pay for it either.
2007-07-22 14:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you should be ready to receive some sort of response like this: "God has other plans for those people". Trust me, I've seen enough of it too. We will always come off as the ignorant ones because of the way that religion, particularly Christianity, is built into society. I'm not saying I hate all religious people, I have many respectable religious friends, but when it comes down to the kind of data you just laid out here for us. . . there really is nothing any religious person can say in response. You can set aside any questions over the origin of the universe, etc, etc, and there will still always be such indisputable points to make regarding Christianity.
2016-05-18 00:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by eda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get what you >choose<.
Who says you have to do anything at all?
You decide, you choose.
Follow your heart, your passion, let it drive ya.
If you want something bad enough, you'll persue it and follow through.
Make your choices, and live by them, and you will have no regrets.
And.. >follow through<.
You have to >just do it<.
Take baby steps.
Lil by lil.
Focus on being great and following through on the few things, rather than just so so at the many.
Keep it simple.
Prioritize.
It's all what you want, all what you >choose<.
And if ya really want it bad enough, you'll make it happen.
Don't beat yourself up.
Just breathe.
It's ok to "just breathe".
Choose.
Determine.
Follow through.
You get what you choose.
PS, you don't have to do and/or be what everyone/anyone else does or says.
Just be you.
Do what you do.
You are free to write your own personal page/stotry in life.
What do you want your life to speak of you?
Sieze the day is good though.
Who knows what tomorrow brings.
Make it count.
Choose well.
God bless.
2007-07-21 01:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by SOULCRY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step to overcoming the problem is to recognize it. The second step is to lay goals for yourself that are believable, conceivable, and achievable. Third, allow yourself a reward for achieving each goal.
You have reached the first step. The second step is a little more difficult because it is easy to set goals to far in to the future. You should first set you long term goal, then set short term goals that guide you to your long term goal. Be sure to reward yourself for each short term goal gained. For your long term goal make the reward much more important to yourself than the previous stops along the way, this will help keep you focused on it. Don't become discouraged on those days that you just can't bring yourself to press forward towards your goal. Last, but not least, if you fall just shy of your goal, this is a good thing because it means that you have set your goals to your outer capabilities. In other words, you are then gaining ground.
God speed on your endeavors.
2007-07-22 16:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by david t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever hear the words" A man is creating a situation and not a situation a man"......
Some times you have to push for it and some times it is better you lay back and wait. It is always the best to have the middle way of all things.
2007-07-22 19:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us are both. We know we should probably wait for what seems to be about to appear, but we set out to meet it. It wastes time, it's a wrong sort of start. As long as the feeling of hope stays strong, it's worth waiting longer. Relax if you're not sure - nobody is without SOME instincts telling them or warning them - listen for them.
2007-07-14 21:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well , i m too passive sort of person , waiting things to and change my life. But this is not a way of life honestly. Life is ever-changing phenomena , if we wait and hold our self to be happened, i m afraid life will badly react to us.
Good way of living is to be opposite of it . Be active, looking for new opportunities. living our life as a last day of life ,putting every effort to empower it full life and happiness
thanks
2007-07-14 23:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Abdul H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Putting your life on hold could be because of procrastination, not laziness and procrastination is typically a symptom of depression. You decide.
2007-07-22 19:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say energy comes to you in waves, when you got the high energy waves a flowing I say goto town with whatever comes to your mind, and feel free to any options for letting loose, essentially act like your drunk but dont drink...ok actually i would say, NO SEX NO DRUGS NO ALCOHOL for 2 weeks and see if you go nuts or something lol....
2007-07-14 20:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by crashaholics 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋