My husband and i have a 3 year old, plus we work separate shifts so that we're raising our child instead of a babysitter. But this leaves very little time for sex and it gets pushed back to "some other time". It seems like the more we don't do it ... the more he's not in the mood for it when we have a moment to do it.
There was one occasion recently that I had romantic plans and a babysitter, and he ended up enviting his nephew to stay with us for the weekend.
What can i do to help rekindle his desire?
I'm not the cheating type. I've had plenty of opportunities. But I want him.
2007-07-14 19:59:20 · 5 answers · asked by sistersahara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just explain to him, that just because he's not in the mood, doesn't mean that your not. You have needs that need to be met and he is the one to meet them. If all else fails, jump his bones when he is sleeping.
2007-07-14 20:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by bekapv_219 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you both need to reconnect. If you have someone to watch your child for you, take a mini weekend vacation somewhere, so that you both can unwind, and enjoy each others company. My husband and I have 3 children, (age 7, 4, and 18 months) we've been together for 14 years, and sometimes, we just get a sitter for the kids, and we rent a local hotel room w/a hot tub, and have a great time! You need adult time, and don't sacrifice that, because it puts a strain on your marriage. I know sometimes it may seem you are drifting apart, but it is just the situation. Remind yourselves, that the love you both share created a beautiful child, that you both are raising, and that is something worth celebrating. Even if it means going camping under the stars. Reconnect, take time to know each other all over again, ask him out on a 'date' and just have fun, most of all be sure to make time to communicate. Communication is the key to a sucessful relationship. Tell him what bothers you, and find out what is bothering him, come together to help each other with the situations that are bothering each of you. Marriage is a team effort, and there is no "I" in team. It takes two. I wish you all the best.
2007-07-14 20:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by momof3anglz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a little tricky. Men are tricky. This is also very common so you are definately not alone in your dilema.
Some couples actually schedule sex. This may sound boring. Your husband may balk at the idea. However, scheduling a set time at least opens the door back into your sex life. The day of your scheduled 'event', begin by gently grazing your hand across his croth when you see one another in passing. This triggers his mind and at least gets him thinking along those lines. Throughout the day, send him a few dirty text messages or call him and tell him a few dirty things you are planning to do to him when you get together. Finally, when you do get together, try giving him an erotic massage to get him in the mood.
If you make plans to have a 'date' nite again and he either cancels or invites a relative or friend over again,this may indicate a different problem. In which case you will actually need to sit down and talk with him, ask him what is going on, how you can help and what solution the two of you can come up with.
Good luck. '-)
2007-07-14 20:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dear Indigo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible he is cheating on you. Become the detective and find out what is going on. It is not normal for a husband not to want sex, unless he is getting it somewhere else.
2007-07-14 20:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain this to him-just as you told us. Sex is essential to a relationship. Good luck!
2007-07-14 20:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋