The name Cidnie has always meant so much to me, because my step sister Cidnie died at 18 months old in a drowning incident. Now that I'm pregnant again, with another girl, I want to name her Cidnie. Problem is my husband says no way, that he hates the name. I told him it would mean so much to me, and I even asked if we could use it as a middle name and he said no. Then I tried to get him to let me use Cidnie's middle name Alexus as a first or middle name for our baby and he said no that they're ugly names. I'm broken hearted because I feel so strongly that the little girl in my belly should be named Cidnie. My husband has suggested a few names like Linda and Nancy after his family members, and I said maybe we could name her Linda Alexandria, but that doesnt float with them. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? I sure feel deeply hurt.
2007-07-14 19:37:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
We have two children and he picked both of their names. I sort of liked them, but wasn't crazy about them.
2007-07-14 19:45:41 · update #1
Your husband is being an asshole. You are the one that is carrying and giving birth to this child. And Linda and Nancy are terrible. He named the other ones too? Oh my God, he is way too controlling. You need to put your foot down.
2007-07-14 19:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 19⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't matter who wants to name the baby what. You are the mother, he is the father. You have to compromise, both of you. Anyone who thinks that one parent, be it the mother or the father, has more of a right to name a child than another is childish and silly. Marriage involves compromise, and this is no different. I understand your desire to name your daughter after your stepsister - - you need to speak with your husband, making sure he understands why you feel so strongly about this and you need to understand why he doesn't want to name his daughter Cidnie or Alexus. Together I'm sure you two can choose a name that honors your stepsister, that both of you like.
Whatever you do, do not name your child a name that he has stated he does not prefer. If you do that, you are doing exactly what you claimed your husband did with your older children (and I'm surprised that some posters are so quick to label your husband a variety of names for doing that, but then suggest that you do the same).
Best of luck to you.
2007-07-16 07:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lori H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use the letters in your name to create another name. *maybe don't tell him, as he seems to be being a bit of a d*nk if you ask me*
You could turn Cidnie into Cindie or Denie.
You are the mother here, and you are carrying this child, and he has named the other 2. Stand your ground and TELL him your baby is GOING to have the name Cidnie (or Cindie), either as a first or second name, and he can choose which. And if he doesn't choose if he'd like it for a first or second name, just tell him you will call her by Cidnie her whole life, and when she asks why you call her something else, he can tell her.
A name that means something is so much more special than a name that means nothing. You are also the one that will be calling her most, unless he is home most of the time which rarely happens. So use this against him.
Stand up for yourself and your daughter here, you deserve it.
2007-07-15 02:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by vegface 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is your husband SO unwilling to compromise over something that obviously means so much to you. Why do you allow him to have all the control in naming the children and who is the "them" that you refer to? Is that "his" family making the decisions. No one should be making decisions about the naming of the baby but the two of you and you should BOTH be willing to compromise. Sorry hon, but it seems to me that naming your child may be the least of your problems here. Linda Alexandria is a lovely compromise, but I'm wondering why he is putting down any of your choices. Sounds like a huge control freak to me. Not a healthy kind of relationship to be in.
You are not making a mountain out of a molehill at all. Perhaps just the opposite.
2007-07-15 02:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cidrea. Aundaran. Caundrian/Caundriana. Ciadree Ciara Aundree Aundree Ciara Ciran Aundrea
2016-05-18 00:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by cara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a selfish asshole! So let me get this straight, he prefers the names Linda and Nancy over Cidnie or Alexus? Not only is he selfish by just wanting to name her after one of his family members, but he's an idiot as well. Sorry, but this just isn't right! Please go with your heart and give your little girl a name that has meaning to you. Cidnie and Alexus are both beautiful names and you should stick with one of them. Don't let that selfish jerk try and bully you into naming her after one of his family members (with unattractive names). I really can't believe he would even have the nerve to tell you your sister's name is ugly! He obviously has no respect for your family or sister's memory. Good luck and don't worry about him. You just focus on your little one and he needs to stop acting like such a child.
2007-07-14 22:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by KhaylasMommy 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, you should each pick a name. If he doesn't like that idea, than tell him that you are sorry and do it anyway. Compromise only when you are being respected for your opinion. I like both of the names, and Cidnie is the most beautiful of the two. It has a very unique spelling and most of all, it means something to you. Linda and Nancy are very unoriginal. Good luck! Say hello to Cidnie for us when she is born!
2007-07-15 20:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOSH! By the tone of all the answers you received here, it's no wonder divorce rates are sky high!
In another of your questions you said how good your hubby treats you and your children. You need to think about the real him, the one you love and married, not the one that all these people here think they know!
Choosing the name for your child is absolutely a joint decision since it is just as much his child as it is yours.
And, sorry but NO, it doesn't matter that you "sacrificed" your body for this pregnancy. Give me a break! Your body is made to have a baby! It really is not a sacrifice, it's a blessing to be able to experience that close early bond with the baby inside of you, something men will NEVER ever experience.
Living in the past as far as "He named these two, now it's MY turn" is just immature. This is the name you two are going to be calling your child EVERY DAY OF THEIR LIFE!!! Do you really want to bring up resentment and remorse every time either one of you say your child's name???
You both need to work through this issue, compromise, find a name you can both agree on.
If you want your marriage to last, do not follow the advise here to name the child without your husband, behind his back or in spite of him. He is not a dog or a possesion, he is your husband. You chose to marry him. Now learn to live together, respecting each others opinions. That's what marriage is all about.
2007-07-15 05:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by fertile_myrtle 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Very tricky. From what you've described it sounds like your husbands being unreasonable, but he's your husband so you need to work something out, huh? I think you should talk to him and explain how you feel about it, and if he doesn't understand still, then... well, thats tough. Find out why he doesn't want to name them that name. If its hard to talk to him, why not try writing him a letter and explain how you feel and how much it means to you.
Some alternatives to Cidnie which you might like are:
Sylvie
Cynthia
Sally
Adelaide
Cassidy
Stephanie
And for Alexus:
Alessia
Lexine
Or, try naming with the same initials "C.A".
I would support you to put your foot down (not in a rude or relationship damaging way.. and not naming her at the hospital without your husband)
2007-07-14 20:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by ak 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that your husband is superstitious? Maybe he's worried that bad karma will follow your daughter to be. Maybe the mere mention of the name will always worry him about losing a child.
In your case, I think your best compromise is to pick a name that doesn't belong to any family on either side. Maybe you can pick a first and middle name starting with Cidnie's initials... so that you know in your heart you've kept her light burning... without upsetting your husband. After all, she belongs to the "two" of you.
I know right now it seems like the world's crashing around you because of this upset... (it's because your hormones are all out of whack and you're very emotional), but once your daughter is here... you're going to get over this deep hurt, no matter what her name. Trust me!
2007-07-14 19:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is being a asshat!
He suggests names from his family, but won't even consider a name from yours that means so much?!? Ridiculous!
Does the spelling matter to him? Maybe suggest "Sydney" instead of "Cidnie", and "Alexis/Alexa" instead of "Alexus" and see if that helps. If he picked the names of your other children, tell him he's out of luck this time...it's your turn to name your child. No more discussion necessary!
2007-07-15 01:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by Chase 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋