Why does everyone tell people to grow up when they have a problem about something, exspecially about exs and stuff. Im marrying a guy that has an ex wife and 3 kids. She is NOT allowd to come to the door to pick the kids up or drop them off, courts rulles. The new person you marry has athoraty over those kids no matter what the other parent says, your there step-parent. If your ex trust you around the kids, you should too. The new person can tell the ex what to do when it comes to....if they can come in your house, if the kids can go with you a certin day or not...are you getting what im saying? The bio parents need to get over the whole evil-step-parents, were not all like that. So why does everyone think the bio parents think they can do what ever the fuc* they want????
2007-07-14 19:28:38 · 5 answers · asked by sissy85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You confused me........but knowing what my ex is like (an idiot)
I would not trust any woman he chose to marry enough to
be raising my children. I would have serious reservations
about letting them go there unless I knew a bit about her. Luckily for me, no girl has been stupid enough to get hooked up with him long enough to meet the kids.
But simply, any parent, who loves and is concerned about their kids, would be uneasy about another person coming into their childrens lives. Especially someone who has never had kids.
Lucky for me, It is only one night a week I have to worry about.
2007-07-14 19:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it has to do, I think, with competition. The biological mother doesn't want some other person to have authority over her own kids, not because she necessarily thinks you're irresponsible, but because that's HER territory! Even though your husband is her ex, she still has some ties with him (namely those kids!), and she's not going to give up that position very soon. She also has to compete with you for the affections of her own kids. If you let them have pie for breakfast one time (no big deal in my book once in a great while) and then they go home to her, they're inevitably going to say, "Well, sheeee let us have pie. Why can't you be more like her?" and that would kill any mother to hear.
2007-07-14 19:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize this woman is always going to be a part of your life because he was married to her and they evidently liked each other enough to have three kids. If this is not something you can handle, get out now. I'm serious. You will fight over her calling all the time and it will make you miserable. So, is it really worth it? Either get over it, or deal with it.
2007-07-14 19:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that.s why there.ex. s in my opion she needs to see that by now. my opion?
2007-07-14 20:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a pain.....
2007-07-14 19:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋