Should I help my friend....?

Question

I have this friend she's 37 lives at home and is a compulsive shopper. She asked me to "help" her clean her bedroom, she said it was messy and she needed help moving the furniture I told her sure, but I could only help for a few hours in the evening after my husband gets home. I asked her to please, have any garbage picked up so we could get right down to sorting her things.. When I arrived I was horrified at the condition of the bedroom.The bed was out of the room, but the entire floor was covered in filth.I'm talking about 75-100 empty 20 oz. coke/pepsi bottle, dirty Kleenex and piles and pile of clothes, and enough dog hair for 10 dog. Even after 4 hours of sifting/sorting her things it didn't look like we even make a dent in her room.I was mad because she had over 24 hours to get the trash out of the room before I got there. She wants me to "help" her again next weekI feel that she intentionally let me do all the work..Should I help her or decline.I have my own house/family to ca

While I was there we filled 4 contractor bags full of trash.. Her room is roughly 13x10.. with a double closet... It's small and cramped... We could barely fit in there together to remove things so I brought over pop up lawn/leaf heavy duty bins that hold 4 loads of laundry each and I put anything clothing related in the bins.. I had 8 waves of clothes just on the floor and in the closet... Dust was everywhere and the rooms stinks !

Answer 1

I strongly agree with Missy! If you can sit there and ask her to at least have the trash up by the time you get there, and she couldn't do that small favor for you, then you don't need to help her with the room! She didn't do your favor don't do hers. And if she asks you to help her next week tell her no, you're busy, or just simply tell her no! Simply because it tiresum,its nasty, she's lazy, and she's grown, and shouldn't be living like that anyways!!! Besides, if my room or house looked like the way you described, do you think I would want ANYONE to help me? NO!! That's like so embarrassing!!!

Answer 2

Don't you dare help her. She's looking for someone to help/ do it for her. She's grown she should not be living like that, thats just rude. If she asks for your help again just say,"NO" why. Because I asked to do to one simple thing and you couldn't even do that. So you know what clean your room by yourself. You made the mess so you clean it.