overcome shyness?

Question

I have this sort of get together thing for school this monday. I want to go, have fun, make new friends, be myself, and all that other stuff.

But, i have a problem! I'm really really shy and it's hard for me to do all these stuff.

I really need some.. i mean ALOT of advice! so please help me!!! i need all the advices i can get so please reply. It is sort of urgent too so the soone you answer the better.

Remember, no answer is stupid so just help me!

I'm an in-coming freshman.

most people i know will be going to the same school so i cant really start over like many people say and these people i know are not the shy kind either

Answer 1

dude! u r like an egg... you kinda have your standards. no bigg tho! i do too!
but, maybe for one night, bust out! be your true self and put yourself out there! so what if people think u r cazy and what not, if you can't confide to them what you're all about, then you shouldn't wanna be their friends anyways.
good luck!
♥mR♥

Answer 2

For starters, all Freshmen are a little afraid and will try to form groups around other Freshmen they already know. However, regardless of how they "remember" you, you get to start over...but you're "shy", right?

Look, if you were in a crowd of 100 people who were about to die, and a helicopter hovering overhead said they could only carry 10 people to safety...would you be shy and die? or would you be yelling as loud as the others? Do you think that the others have more of a right to live than you? Do you think they are better than you? Really? If not, then what in the heck is there to be shy about?

Listen, most people who are shy believe that if they open their mouths people won't like what they have to say, or that someone might make fun of them or what they're wearing. The reality is that the only thing that separates the losers from the cool is "perspective". If someone calls you a "geek", just smile and ask if they thought that one up all by themselves, turn and walk right past them. How you react to others will determine how they treat you. Shyness can easily become self-assuredness once you realize that all these putz's will probably be poor and ugly by the time they're 35 and you'll be sitting by your pool drinking martini's...just keep that image in your mind. Those who abuse with their tongue have nothing in their heads...so ignore them. Many people around you will think you're "cool" because the comments make the commenter look like an idiot because it didn't phase you.

To be cool, just act "cool", not 'cold', not 'dead', not "emo"...just "cool"...don't say too much, look right at people when you talk to them, and don't mumble, just say what you have to say as if you were talking to a little brother or sister.

Good luck

Answer 3

omg i was tha saaammmee way... Yeah It sux bein shyyy... I still am a little bit but a little shy is good i think!
Ummm its hard but just go up to people and start converstaions and junk ya know just be you! People will realize you're awesome and whamo! new friends.. lol
I think thats all the advice i have for you! Im not gunna give a huge long speil about how you have to be confident and stuff, i mean you do but You allready know what to do---- tha problem is doing it ....... ssoooo just doooo ittt! lol
goooddd luck!!!

Answer 4

Find a group of people (whichever looks most inviting), get in with them, and just pretend like you know exactly what you're doing. If you look confident, and you're with a group, people are going to include you. Again, you don't have to even be confident, or even talk at first, just look like you belong and you're confident. Smile, laugh, and keep your head up. Don't seem too desperate or clingy to the group, and don't make bad jokes just so you're saying something. If you have the atmosphere of whatever kind of personality you want to come across as, people will believe you.

Answer 5

think of some easy openers, like where are you from, what do you want to major in, are you in sports (or music, or whatever) Just smile and ask sincere questions and people will open up to you. Remember that many others will be as shy and nervous as you, so once you break the ice, you are on your way.

Answer 6

this is a REALLY GOOD OPPORTUNITY for a 1st impression. EVERYONE at the cerethingy is going to be shy and w/e , so take this opportunity to MEET SOME PEOPLE. just be fun and awesome, and outgoing; get rid of ur shyness.

Answer 7

Write down, what you want to say.Practice saying it in front of a mirror until you fel good about saying it.That worked for me.
I was shy too in school.
GOOD LUCK! Have fun.

Answer 8

Your a freshman. Its time to change that up. Speak more, make small talk with alot of ppl. Say cool stuff but dont be annoying.

Answer 9

hey man.try this...........look in a mirror and speak to ur self....
the guy in the mirror is another school mate....say hey man whats-up.......are you ready for the this long school year......yeah.me too.......just talk like you're talking to someone and you'll see how simple it is.......
just keep in mind that you don't have to do any of this stuff...
it's ok to be a shy person...nothing is wrong with it......
if you feel that you want to talk to and be friendly that's ok as well.........
set your mind in this order.....you are who you are and if others don't except you for that it's their lost.......there is no rule saying you have to be an all out going guy like me or any one else.......there are ONLY one of you on this planet......only one..........be proud of who you are no matter what you wanta do..........now go ahead look in that mirror and take pleasure in what you see.......others will see you better then you will..........always..i promise......
live right
live happy
and live long
STEVE

Answer 10

you're new, so that means nobody at that school probably knows you. this is a good time to overcome that shyness and change.

this is a good opportunity