If we do is he just using me??? Is it wrong for us to be in a relationship, let alone have sex ???
He says he wants to, then he says we should not. What does he want? Should we go the whole way?
Plz answer all of my questions!
2007-07-14 16:12:29 · 45 answers · asked by Klava♥ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He is 17, and I'm 14...
2007-07-14 16:18:00 · update #1
YEAH. It's wrong.
2007-07-14 16:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pango 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I personally do not agree with any sort of relationship when you are 14. Your risk of being a teenage mom is so much greater. We all have had probably 1 girl from school who was pregnant before they graduated. Do you really want that? And to think of what happens if you do become pregnant to your parents. They will want you to finish school so they will not only be taking care of it but supporting the two of you as well. Please think long and hard about starting this type of relationship. I was 17 the first time I had sex and wish with all my heart that I had waited for the man I would marry. At 14 I wasn't even thinking of sex. I was too busy with my friends and trying to discover who I was. Your boyfriend is obviously having the same questions. Talk this over with him and break up with him. Live a life of innocence as long as possible.
2007-07-14 16:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by bfldmom3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Guys that age want one thing only, and once they get it then they are done with you. Don't do something you will regret. You can never gain it back once you do it. Have you ever heard a woman say "Gee, I wish I had had sex sooner than I did", I'm guessing you haven't. Most say they wish they would have waited longer.
My 17 year old cousin just lost her virginity after I warned her time and time again, but she really liked this guy and thought he was a great guy. Well guess what, he didn't call her after that. He knew he had taken her virginity and didn't even call. She's devastated right now and cries and says she wishes she would have waited. The experience didn't even feel good for her, as it usually doesn't the first few times. It actually is a little painful and you bleed a little at first. Please wait. If he really cares about you he will accept it and won't pressure you. If he does pressure you, then you know he doesn't really care about you and only wants sex, and then he will find somebody who will give it to him.
2007-07-14 16:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Do not let yourself be taken advantage of this way. I don't care how much he says he loves you, if he really did he would not be trying to pursue a relationship of this nature with you. There is really no reason why a 17 year old should be dating a 14 year old. I'm not blaming you, but honestly this is not a good situation. He should know better.
Enjoy being 14 and ditch this guy!
2007-07-14 19:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think it's mature that you are asking these questions.
the reason I say this is because I believe you are really thinking this thru.
Because I don't know the details, or know you and your friend all that well, I am going to answer this just based on what I know, your age, and that you are asking this particular question.
I don't think you should have sex. Sex comes with a lot of responsibility that a lot of people, older sometimes more than younger tend to forget or just don't think about.
besides catching STD's, or getting pregnant, do you really think you are ready to have sex? Don't you think that it would be worth waiting for that one person you KNOW is the right one, and not just some guy who says he wants to do it? or whatever? Even if you have already had sex with someone else, waiting for that right person and KNOWING you are ready to take that next step is what makes a difference than just 'hooking up' and giving it away to anyone that is not deserving of you or what you have to offer.
now, age wise, well, yes it is wrong. he should be with someone his own age, and not preying on you or those of your age... sorry, but that is how I feel. I feel he is just out to have sex, and doesn't care about you or what is right.
I wish you luck and hope you think this all the way thru, before you decide to go all the way with him or anyone else.
2007-07-14 16:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rochelle T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing as wonderful as having a young man cherish and respect you until you both are married to each other. I know, old fashion answer, but oh how it rings true to this very day.
To go back in time and do things differently like have confidence in myself, self respect, and self control, I would do it in a second. The unplanned pregancies, STDs, broken heart, and a bad reputation, were terrible and painful times. I've been around the block too many times that I'm right there in my kids faces being straight up with them, and protecting them.
My daughter, 16, keeps getting comments (more like compliments) from guys that say she is different from all the other girls, and is purer than most of the girls they know. She loves it, and chooses to have high standards. My girls keep asking for their purity rings.
It would not be in the best interest for both of you to be sexual and him being 17 yrs. old is way too old for a 14 yr. old young lady. I have a 14 yr. old daughter.
I'd say....NO to the whole idea. Have a good day :-)
2007-07-14 16:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong and maybe illegal in your state. If you care about him don't do anything that will cost his freedom. It's hard to determined if a person is using a person for sex or going too, what you need to understand once you give yourself to him how will you feel if in fact he was using you for sex? Your problem is you haven't grown enough to know this answer before the act and this is the reason you shouldn't be having sex at your age.
I wouldn't allow my daughter into a relationship with anyone two years above her age and of course NO SEX!
When a guy or anyone act like this guy their confusing you on purpose I call it the guilt trip and that's what he's doing to you, "confusing you" on purpose.
You are your first best friend. Your mind, body and soul belongs to you. Last, If he can't be clear and non pressuring to not confuse you, please move forward in your life.
2007-07-14 16:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by animatelifeforce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1)is it wrong for you to have sex that young? YES It is wrong , having sex it is a big deal.
2)s he using you? well...lets just say that kids at that age will do and will say anything just to get on your pants, their hormones are kicking them hard.
3) it wrong for you to be in a relationship? the question here is: are your parents ok with your relationship? if they don't approve it then...it is wrong.
See...having sex is something that should be well thought, with maturity, there are some risks that you have to be aware of like you could end up pregnant or you could get an STD. If you are not sure...follow your heart and wait until both of you are more mature to handle what having sex is. If he really loves you, he will respect your wishes and will wait, if he is pushing you to do something you don't want to...then he is using you and it is not worth your time.
2007-07-14 16:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong is a matter of personal morals, but I think that there is a chance you will regret having sex with this 17 year old. If you do decide to have sex, make sure you use birth control, correctly and every time! Get on the pill! If you get pregnant, you will be saying to yourself over and over how having sex was NOT worth the consequences.
2007-07-14 16:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's fine for every teen to have relationships, as long as they are mature enough to know where they end. When you are young, you will almost certainly not stay with someone that you go out with. You will date plenty of guys, and the chances of you staying with the boyfriend you are with now is slim to none, unfortunately. So ask yourself if you are okay with giving your virginity to someone who probably only wants you for sex. Even if that's not the case now, in the end it will be because he will get tired of the whole relationship thing and will want to move on to other things or other girls, and that is all that would have come of the relationship. Sooo, I would have to say that it would not be in your best interest to have sex with your boyfriend especially at such a young age, because not only would you be giving up something for no reason, but you still run the risk of becoming pregnant. As for what your boyfriend wants, who knows the real truth but him. He probably does want sex, but since you are so young he is probably scared so he wants you to initiate it first because he thinks that if you do he won't get in trouble (because it is illegal).
2007-07-14 16:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by ChisseyGuwel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is just using you and you are under the age of consent. Depending on what state you live in you have to be anywhere from 16-18 in order to have sex legally. Wait until your married unless you want to be a single mother drop out. That is wrong. You also have the risk of getting HIV, AIDS or other diseases.
2007-07-14 18:39:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋