2007-07-14 12:35:00 · 14 answers · asked by aruna w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think you should just have been open and honest with him in the begginning but ya tell him....i would be upset if i heard something from someone els.
2007-07-14 12:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure you can tell him after a year. Here's my question, did you tell him originally that you had never been married? Cause if you did that's lying and ya might have a problem. Second, after a year, was there some important reason why you never told him.? Does he not agree with divorce? Cause if that's the case ya will have a problem. You aren't being open and giving him a chance to deal with the relationship with all the facts.
2007-07-14 19:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by totalverity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you're divorsed .But now you're in another relationship with another man ,but you think it's too early to tell him or you have to wait a year before you can tell him?.....Well all I can say ,if this other guy is interested in you ,is that you will have to just remain friends for now and explain to him about your previous marriage, but until the divorce is completely out the way, he's just gonna have to sit tight for a while and hopefully if he thinks that much of you, he will.Then hopefully after the years up you can get together on a more perminent basis.
2007-07-15 20:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by revzillo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you that shouldn't matter. You aren't wearing a scarlet letter, something ended that wasn't suppose to be, you didn't do this while with him. Explain you went through something and it affected you and you felt that it belonged in the past. See, we forget, I know I do, that we deserve to be happy. What is wrong with you previously being married? Nothing. If this is a man worth being with he will listen, and understand and who knows hold you tight and say it's okay. You don't have to feel bad, isn't like you held something that would personally affect him. So many people have children before being with the man they love, so many people have been married before finding the right one. This is not a crisis, this something that happened in your life that made you feel a certain way. I bet you wanted a fresh start and to forget all the past. Be happy, and if someone doesn't look past your past, then they too should be part of it.
2007-07-14 19:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by ohmom2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that u r divorce is not going to change after one year.if he comes to know from other sources this matter before you tell him he may think that u r a cheat he may get away from u, if he is to except u he can do it today.being in truth can win the heart.
2007-07-14 20:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by george p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it will be better for both of you to know the truth before your marriage,if you will retell him after 1 year that you was married before it's can be a very big catastrophe for yours life,so don't afraid and retell him true,"Most better a true,than sweet lair or hidden something very important".I think that you are was divorce it's very important,so you must tell him about it before your marriage(or before when you will make some serious relationships).
2007-07-15 13:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Aruna,
Are you going to marry this person or just spending time with him?
If you are going to marry him, you have to tell him about your previous marriage and divorce. There is no harm in it. What if he leaves you after hearing the truth (after one year)? [after your new marriage]
If you want just to enjoy life with him without any committments, you need not tell him. If he comes to know, you can explain at that time.
2007-07-15 08:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by bvk41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have not told him now is the time to do what is right. He may be upset that you kept something this important from him but if he loves you this should matter much to him. I think it is time to stop lioving a lie and to come forward with your past marriage and divorce.
God Bless and Best Wishes with your mate.
2007-07-15 01:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear, thre is no point hiding what is real and its better to tell first rather than waiting to get involved with him totally. bcz if he will come to know later on he might feel offended or betrayed. so its better if u tell him right away.. gonna b good for u only
2007-07-15 02:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Deeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? So you are in a relationship now and he doesnt know that you were previously married? Well you should tell him now but he is going to wonder why you waited a year. It seems kinda shady on your part.
2007-07-14 19:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by lcplyr7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hai Aruna ,
How are you , this is venkat .Your in a big confusion but tell this fact.Becouse any time you have to tell means in future u must have to tell otherwise it will creates a big problem so tell frankly .Wat ever it may be always be frankly then ur heart always feels happy without any tesions
2007-07-18 06:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by 3dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋