So we went to the mall this weekend and HE suggested ring shopping. We've discussed marriage and know it's what we want but more importantly we both understand that it's not something that we want to do until we're BOTH financially stable or at least done with school (i'm not done, he is). We're going to struggle through a bit of a long distance relationship for about 6 months starting this fall so that I can continue my schooling in SC while he is in OH finishing out the lease on his apartment (which he can't get out of).
My understanding was that we were going to wait for a while to move forward with anything but the ring shopping caught me by surprise since that wasn't something we really thought was appropriate at this time.
Thoughts on why he may have done this.
PS. don't get me wrong i would LOVE to have a diamond on my finger but that's all, i'm not ready to plan a this upcoming week let alone a wedding.
2007-07-14 12:11:57 · 11 answers · asked by laughalot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he may have just wanted to reaffirm the commitment before you two are separated for a while.
It's not as though you have to plan a wedding right away; you can wait months or years -- it doesn't matter. The engagement ring symbolizes commitment and a desire for marriage, but it doesn't dictate WHEN you get married. So relax and enjoy it. ^^
Here's an idea: Before he leaves, why don't you get him a ring too? A thin gold band. He'll be thrilled that you feel the same way about him that he does about you, and that you're just as proud about him being "taken" by you and he is about you being "taken" by him. ^^
2007-07-14 12:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Riven Liether 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are struggling with a long distance relationship, perhaps he is letting you know that he is still committed to it.
It is also possible that he is responsible enough to realize that a ring is a big investment (if you intend to have a fancy one), and he wants to get on with the year long process of paying for it...
It is also possible, if you are struggling with a long distance relationship, that he is letting you know that getting ready to plan a wedding ought to be higher up your priority list... especially if you are not presently ready to plan a weekend. Nobody will gracefully wait forever, especially at a distance, without some pretty solid commitment proudly displayed.
Perhaps he is gently indicating that if you want to be his life partner, it is getting to be time to **** or get off the pot. People do change schools, you know.
2007-07-14 12:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you went ring shopping doesn't mean you're getting one anytime soon, since as you pointed out, you're broke and coming up on a nonvoluntary separation. However, now your man knows what you like in rings and you won't end up with something hideous. Who knows, maybe he got a bonus or something. You guys should see if he can find someone willing to take over the lease on his apartment. Good luck
2007-07-14 12:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to get engaged before you move off.. you know the ring is kind of like a symbol that "you're taken"...
but based on what you've said, perhaps it's a "long term" engagement until you both "are ready"...
2007-07-14 12:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, guys can't win for losing. If he hadn't done this, you probably would have been writing about " we have been together and since we are going to be apart, why doesn't he take me ring shopping?" Just because he did this doesn't necessarily mean he thinks you are going to start making out the guest list and shopping for a gown.
2007-07-14 12:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, remember diamonds are expensive. Maybe he wants to know your tastes so he can either put it on lay-a-way or save money for just the perfect ring for you once he knows the cost.
How exciting!
2007-07-14 12:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl you are so lucky.... it almost sounds like he may want to propose before you leave for school.... but that's just me guessing so don't get too excited.....
or he may be just getting some ideas for later. Either way you are very lucky to have found a guy that loves you like that. I wish I could find that!
I would def be prepared to be expecting a ring.... but DON'T get too overly excited.... you never know.....
2007-07-14 12:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Katia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could just want to give you a promise ring, or maybe an engagement ring. an engagement can last as long as you'd like, doesnt have to be 6months-1year. just see what happens. or after all, it could just be a plain old ring with no significance.. just a piece of jewelry.. you never know.
2007-07-14 12:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rai * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to see what you like. Maybe he's going to get you a ring soon.
2007-07-14 12:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol relax he might be getting some ideas of what you like and yes he might ask the question soon but dont bust his bubble and ruin his surprise........just relax lol.....
2007-07-14 12:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋