My fiance had plans with me to help paint a new rental property I bought. I came home and he was next door. I called him. He said he would be over soon. There is a girl there that I suspect likes him bc she flirted heavliy with him once right in front of me. I was curious so I walked over there. He didn't look like he was leaving. It looked like he was about to sit down and there was a bunch of people.When he saw me he said that now that I was there I should stay and blurted out that I need to sit between he and Mary (the girl) and that I came over bc I am jealous. I said I didn't give a **** if she sits next to him out of humiliation. He insisted I stay. I found out her man broke up w/her. After a while I gave him a look to leave and paint. He said he doesn't want to and said a few times if I am not having fun to leave out loud.He said if I didn't show up asking him to leave we would be painting. The girl left. He is still there.Could he like her or am i paranoid?
2007-07-14 11:54:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have definate concerns.. the whole picture doesn't look good. Hope the wedding isn't soon... I'd wait to see what comes out of this if I were you. Give it some time and see if this problem with "the girl next door" continues.
I have issues with the way he just "dropped" your plans.. the way he spoke to you (in front of the others just made it worse).. and the way he didn't leave with you... If he felt he should be able to stay over there, the least he should have done was to walk away in private and talk to you about it... I would have some serious talking with this guy...
2007-07-14 12:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's uncertain from the details whether or not he was there just because of that girl or if he was just enjoying the people there. At any rate I feel it was inconsiderate of him to blow you off like that. You both need to respect and trust each other. Otherwise your relationship is not going to last.
In any relationship respect and trust are valuable ingredients that makes the foundation of your relationship strong. Loving someone unconditionally and having an open communication between the both of you is important too.
I believe that you too really don't understand each other or talked about what are your goals as a couple and individually that incorporates both mental, spiritual, and emotional state and values in life. These are the most important discussion two people should do before having a physical relationship (which most people do first before really knowing who or what each other desires and goals are in life.
You both need to get to the core of why you want to go through this journey of life together and how you both would like to grow together as a couple as well as individuals. You and your fiancee should look at each other as a gift for each other and cherish each other's vallues and opinion about life and other issues. I don't believe you and your fiancee have done this base on what you've said thus far. If you have you both should step back and remind yourselves what caring, sharing, patience, sacriface means (the true meaning). God Bless
2007-07-14 12:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee let that girl know that it's OK to come on to him because you two are not getting along. He made sure everyone in that room saw you as a jealous controlling woman.He got everyone in that room on his side with the way he talked to you and if he did cheat with this other woman no one there would blame him because the way he made you look. It's obvious that feelings are there between the two of them and you were right to go over there when you did. The first chance he gets he is going to sleep with this woman.I know it's not what you want to hear but you already seen what her intentions are and your fiancee just validated his by the way he put you down in front of her. I know you love him and you don't want to hear people tell you you'll be sorry if you marry this guy but in all honesty your man isn't the man you think he is and you just got a taste of his other side and you should take it as a warning.
2007-07-14 12:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he humiliates you and degrades you in front of a room full of people. that is disloyalty. he has painted a picture to these people that you are a bitter nag who wants to chain him to a paintbrush like your little slave when right next door it is party central full of fun people who dont care about rental property or getting ahead. that is incompatibility. you are ambitious and disciplined and he is making you feell like there is something wrong with that and has abandoned you for the day to get his point across. that is the third strike, you're out.
2007-07-14 12:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never get married unless you can financially and emotionally support yourself. It sounds like you might have the first covered, but you two have a seriously long way to go on the second.
2007-07-14 12:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of advice: Don't get married!
If you all ready having all these issues with trust...marriage will magnify your problems 100x.
Besides, why would you want to lock yourself down "for life" and have to "work hard".
2007-07-14 11:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was taking a break from the painting that's all
2007-07-17 01:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made him look like a dog on a leash in front of people. He stayed to show you that he is not your b*tch. He will get there in his own time. Next time don't boss him in front of people, it sounds like he doesn't like it
2007-07-14 12:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by zeroambition 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are nicer guys out there! i say those are signs that he would easily find himself in a position where he could cheat and he would just go for it and that he forgets about his responsibilities involving u
2007-07-14 12:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither one of you respect the other.
You Get What You Give.
If you don't like what you are getting, maybe you need to change what you are giving ;)
2007-07-14 12:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋