Hi, I am a guy, and have a problem. I am unable to ejaculate in front of my girlfriend. I am fine in private, and even over the phone with her. This issue has really effected us deeply and its a huge problem because were scared that when we take that "final step", that I may not be able to finish. We have tried a few different ways, of which none worked: her doing it, me doing it myself in front of her, and her even masturbating herself while i tried. I at this point believe the problem is 100% psychological, and i really need help trying to solve it. Thanks a lot!
2007-07-14 11:04:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not supposed to ejaculate in FRONT of her, but ins...oh, never mind; you're too young to be messing around like that in the first place!
2007-07-14 11:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of the insecurity. Once you are able to do it, it will be easier the second time. When you are doing whatever it is that you are doing, close your eyes and imagine yourself on the phone with her. It should happen, then you will see that there is nothing wrong with it and maybe you will stop being so self concious about it. When the time comes to take that "final step", I am betting you will have no issues.
2007-07-14 18:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention love at all! Is this just a sexual relationship? Sounds like it! If this is the BIG ISSUE in your relationship, it doesn't sound like it is even worth the trouble! Why don't you try working on the really important things in a relationship, then the other things should occur naturally. You are putting the "cart before the horse!"
2007-07-14 18:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by BLM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it is 100% psychological, but so far knowing that hasn't helped you any, has it? Maybe it's because you don't want to be "seen" that way...obvious solution: do things in such a way that you aren't viewable until your nervousness dies down. (Doggy style or totally dark rooms). You're going to be just fine; it just may take awhile to get your nerves under control, so be patient with yourself.
2007-07-14 18:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you have not taken the final step yet, you are mistaken. but then again a lot of gay guys have a hard time with a woman. not saying you are gay or anything but a guy who can get off in front of a girl. it should just make you think.
2007-07-14 18:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by ltjulie69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a sex therapist. And try... umm... "holding it in" for a week before the next time the two of you go at it.
2007-07-14 18:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a better looking girlfriend.
2007-07-14 18:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, think of some one else while doing it?
nah, kidding, but srsly, if you cant... do it while you're with her, maybe thats your body trying to tell you that you're not ready yet.
2007-07-14 18:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Pie Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal for new relationships
2007-07-18 13:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....let me talk to her so I can tell her what to do...........
Silly boy.
2007-07-14 18:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋