I am divorced, and thought it would be a good thing to fight for 50% parent time with my kids.
I never realized how painfully boring sitting home with my kids all the time would be. Am i just not going to be able to have a social life unless i just pay child support and ditch the kids?
2007-07-14 11:02:14 · 10 answers · asked by ohmyhead69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just ditch the kids and have them resent you ...then pay out your rear in child support. Or go fishing camping hiking and many other wonderful adventures with your children
2007-07-14 12:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Roger R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a social life, make a compromise with the kids. Choose a place for all of you to spend quality time. Then twice a month (for starters) explain that a sitter will stay with them in the evening. If they complain, explain that just like they want to go places so do you. I used to go see a movie with the kids and then have my sister stay the night with the kids until I got home. I didn't get ready until after the kids had gone to bed. I would go out with friends for a couple of hours then come home.
Being a parent is hard work. Being a single parent is even harder. If you make plans to try different things with your children, you may find getting out of the house doesn't have to be about being away from the kids. We started going to a park after school so they would get all that extra energy out. On the weekends a movie or a family restaurant. We started playing card games or new board games at home.
I wish you luck in finding something that works for you and your family.
2007-07-14 18:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by blue_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lmao . I wish you knew how many time i felt that way . Don't worry what you need to do is change your life style your still living like a married person sitting at home with the kids . Get up off the couch get a little easy job somewhere if your not working get a sitter, not a thing wrong with that step out and meet some people that are out looking for new people to meet just like your are have some fun . Nobody said you have to sit there you know.
2007-07-14 18:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex-spouse is a better parent than you are, by all means, give the children to him/her and pay child support. No child wants to be around a parent who feels the way you do about them. Next time, use birth control. If your ex is a worse parent than you are, maybe you could find some loving parents who would be willing to adopt them. You don't love them so why not spare them the agony of being your child and give them to someone who will love being with them, playing with them, teaching them, and enjoying watching the little miracles grow up. Then you can go hang out in some bar and be a blessing to some wino.
2007-07-14 18:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to start by setting priorities. Honestly, you don't sound very involved in your children's lives or you'd know a lot of things you could do to enjoy the time with them instead of resenting it. You didn't mention their ages but all children enjoy playing games, even infants love peek-a-boo, itsy-bitsy-spider, being sung to or read to. Older ones love tossing a ball, running races, going to a park, taking a walk, learning to skate. I've made it real simple for you because you don't seem to have a clue. All children need your time and attention as much as they need financial support. I guess you need to decide if you want to be a daddy or as you say..."ditch the kids and just pay support". I feel sorry for you to not realize they're precious when you would rather prowl.
2007-07-14 18:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're bored because you're boring.
Go outside of the box and think of interesting things to do with the kids. Depending on their age, ask them what would be of interest to them? How about a nature walk and a picnic? Kids love water so if there's a water park nearby, or maybe a creek that they could swim and play around in that would be fun for everyone.
Check your local paper for events for single parents.
2007-07-14 18:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhh dont ditch the kids! find a 24 hr daycare center/or a relative and drop them off go out then pick them up! you can also join a gym with a daycare and the can watch your children!
2007-07-14 18:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by just me these days 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why are you sitting at home with them.....get out and discover things and enjoy their company.
Your children will grow up one day....stop being selfish.
2007-07-14 18:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are a treasure that does not last forever,
dont lose your treasure. they will remember and they are very smart. They should be your number one priority.
2007-07-14 18:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...talk about a moron.
2007-07-14 18:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋