when we first meet he told me he was 29 which this year would make him 32...I do love him dont get me wrong I dont think its the age gap that bothers me but the fact that he lied about it...I dont know how to confront him about it? I looked in his wallet cause i had been suspicious about it...How do i tell him or ask him why?
2007-07-14 10:45:25 · 16 answers · asked by boricuamami_85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What else did you find out that you don't tell here?
2007-07-14 11:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
I can't imagine that you have a lot in common??!!
It's been three years so you obviously have some feelings for him. However, trust is the issue. How can you trust him?
If age is the only issue here... then tell him you found out accidentalty, and have an open discussion about it. Maybe at first it didn't matter. He was not sure how long the relationship would last, and it got harder to fess up, the more time went past. Now perhaps he does not know HOW to clear his conscience. Birthdays must be difficult! How could he possibly control what his friends and family might say. You would have found out eventually.
Give him the opportunity to explain.
Touche OUT!
2007-07-14 11:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying is not a good basis for a relationship. Sit down and tell him that you took a peek in his wallet and found out about his real age. Ask him to tell you why he felt it was ok to not give you this information. In a relationship, trust is most important because without it there is nothing but suspicions and hurt. I understand that age is nothing but a number, I believe in that too. Explain to him that this is not the issue and that you are shocked and hurt by his actions. Be prepared for all types of answers and to weed out the lies--men in a panic lie to cover-up the lie. Tell him that in order for your relationship to work, you need him to be honest and to work through this issue. Be strong girl! Tu puedes! I hope everything goes well...suerte!
2007-07-14 11:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by genova32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar. I think the age does bother you a bit or you wouldn't have look trough his wallet. Thre are too many good guys out there to waste your time with a liar. Confront him in a mature way, then you'll have to decide if he's really the one for you.
2007-07-14 10:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies and suspicion do not make for a good relationship!
Ask him outright why he would continue to harbor this lie after you two began your relationship. If trust is important to you, I suggest you come clean with any half-truths while encouraging him to do the same. Explain your disappointment in the fact that he felt he had to maintain the lie.
2007-07-14 10:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by iniyaitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset as well. He has lied to you on something of major importance. You are only 22 y/o. You will want to have children one day and he will be too old. When you'll be 40 right in your sexual peak, full of energy and at the top of your game...he will be 60 y/o!!
To me it would be like being robbed of my future...and like others have said, he has probably lied about other important things also...so put your brave face on and confront him. Good luck.
2007-07-14 10:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bottom line is that he lied. Even if he did it initially to get you to go out with him, that's not acceptable! He's had plenty of time to come clean and he hasn't so he's a liar straight up! Get out of this relationship, there is no trust. If you trusted him you would not have searched through his things!! Who wants to live like that?
2007-07-14 11:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sha Sha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should have checked his ID YEARS AGO! But you should ask him first, he may have lied because he thought you would not date him OR he may have something to hide. Either way, you should look deeper into his history, maybe even run a background check, because his years of lying may have caused you embarrassment or even put you in danger.
2007-07-14 11:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sabiduria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THREE YEARS he's been lying to you?? And YES, the age gap bothers ME because he's old enough to be your father! I'd confront him and then tell him to "hit the road, Jack" cause that's not just a "little white lie" he's been telling for three years. Of course, if you want to continue your relationship with him, do so, but, I would never trust someone who maintained a lie to me for three years...not if he loved me like he says he does. Good luck to you.
2007-07-14 10:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Makes me wonder what else he is hiding. I'm 41 and it would be VERY NICE to have a 22 year old girlie-friend. I just wish 16 year old girls would quit hitting on me. I'm like "where were you b!tches when I was 16!?!?"
*sigh*
2007-07-14 10:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋