I was married for 9 years and just got divorced last year. we have been separted for 21/2 years now and i really missed him. So I took him back and now i remember why i got divorced.. now i am scared to tell him that idon't want this realationship we have been back together for two weeks. What can I do?
2007-07-14 09:48:13 · 23 answers · asked by Mz.G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are just going to have to suck it up and admit the truth to him. Don't keep living in misery, life is too short.
2007-07-14 13:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just don't remember why you got divorced?
thats weird. it was only 1 year ago. what was it?
Look, you were married for 9 years. My guess is that there is something about this guy that keeps you hanging on. You just have to decide whether or not you are willing to deal with the not so good stuff. Everyone has their faults. If his behavior is destructive to himself, or you, or even other people, this isnt a situation you should put yourself in. If you are going to take him back every time, maybe you should seek counseling. Communication is key to any relationship. Tell him how you feel, and be open about what you expect, and what you will tolerate to make it work. Ask him to talk to you about what he will tolerate and what he expects from you. good luck.
2007-07-14 09:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by wish4jellybeans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm finding myself in the same position . I was married 23yrs and we are actually in the middle of a divorce. But when you have been married that long he is more like family not just someone u married. Talk to him and tell him that maybe you should just try being friends for awhile if you are lonely without him. Good Luck
2007-07-14 09:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by jusayg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that is very common that you went back so don't hate yourself for trying it again but...........you must make a sound decision and not let the good times come into play when you make this decision....you must be serious or you will always be in limbo not knowing what you want....maybe there is a reason you went back and you should seek counseling with him and try to work out the rough spots...you obviously love him and have some sort of connection so why not and try to save it...if you feel there is no saving this then it is time to bounce but make sure it is exactly what you want.
2007-07-14 10:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you tell him the better, don't drag the inevitable. You are understandably lonely and wanting companionship and it was probably easy to fall back into something with him, but you need to move on and leave him behind if you ever expect to truly be happy. Good luck!
2007-07-14 09:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 07:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up. Don't make yourself miserable for his sake. People make mistakes. He is all you knew for 9 years so it is natural that you missed him. If he really cares about you he will want you to be happy and he will not push the issue. Good luck to you.
2007-07-14 09:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not so rare....you make the mistake of thinking once the divorce is over that you made the wrong choice, and you go back and do something stupid by taking him back.
Tell him the truth. And DON'T make the same mistake again.
2007-07-14 09:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Openly and honestly... But what WERE you thinking? Someone once told me that the only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage. Hon, those attempts just never work unless you are both in counseling and both really wish to try.... You didn't miss him, you missed what you hoped he was, and surprise, surprise, they never are.
What can you do? Leave, or get him to.
2007-07-14 10:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him...it's better to be happy and alone than to be unhappy and with the person that makes you unhappy...Or you can stay and try to work out what drove you to a divorce. I wish you the best...
2007-07-14 09:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by bk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do at anytime is be honest. Not only with him, but with yourself. If this isn't going to make you happy there is no way that you can make this work and make him happy. If you use that approach, it will be easier to deal with the whole thing. Good luck and stay strong!
2007-07-14 09:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋