2007-07-14 09:35:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, I think your views on "homemakers" are a little mixed up. First of all, the ability to stay at home and "keep house" versus going out and earning a wage is not an equal rights issue. Women across America have never marched for the right to stay at home, quite the opposite actually.
Because of our culture, up until 30-40 years ago, a woman couldn't earn a wage as anything other then a housekeeper, teacher, nurse or secretary. It's just been apart of our culture for a woman to traditionally stay at home, while the man goes out and earn a wage.
However, in today's society, the cost of living has increase so much, that most households have two incomes, and household chores are divided equally, or at least the male of the house participates more then he use to.
Women back in the early 1900's and beyond were "trained" by their mothers, aunts, older sisters, their schools even to keep house, raise their kids and "serve" their husbands. It is what was expected of them.
Basically, if you choose to stay at home, versus going out to earn a wage, your not just going to be sitting on your butt. It's a lot of work, and it doesn't matter what your sex is, you can stay at home, if your partner in life agrees it's a good compromise.
But, be prepared to face some possible ridicule and snide remarks from others, they might attack your masculinity. Those that do though, need to get with today's culture, their just immature and unable to grasp the concept we have been trying to fight for since our existence, all of us, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual preference are equal.
2007-07-14 10:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by mrslegume 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't make gendered decisions. They are dumb. Some people still get off on telling others what a "real man" and a "real woman" do. Fortunately we're no longer in the age where everyone believes that. Don't base your decisions off of gendered expectations. Do what works best for you.
Men and women are indeed equal, and as such no distinction between the roles of the two is necessary.
2007-07-14 17:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay home as in not work? As in a house husband? If the wife doesn't mind and you keep the house clean and cook the meals and take care of the kids; then there's nothing wrong with it. If you're not working and not taking care of business at home then you're a lazy slob. And instead of a house husband you've become a house boy.
2007-07-14 16:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Doll Parts 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be what, a kept man or a Mr. Mom?
I know a couple that does it and it works for them.
He goes to Mommy and Me group and is the Brownie leader of his daughter's troop. They can afford it and their children are growing up being raised by their father and have a wonderful relationship with him. What a good beginning to their future relationships with men!
Meanwhile mom is bringing home the bacon and gets to enjoy everyone after hours. They just had a house built and everyone is happy. It's a win-win situation.
If you want to be a kept man, hey, if that's okay with your woman, go for it. Who cares what other people think?
2007-07-14 16:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by mrpeachycat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure it is if that's what you & your wife decide on.
A friend of mine stayed home and homeschooled his children while the wife worked outside the home. I know another couple that did exactly the same thing.
We chose to not do that b/c dh has a degree & I don't and with his field his earning potential was much higher than mine (we couldn't have made ends meet on a salary I made, but we lived fairly comfortably on his salary).
2007-07-14 16:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by StacieG 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is okay if you and the spouse think it is the best thing to do. If it is not agreed on with the spouse then no it would not be okay. You can not worry much about the feelings of others outside a relationship, you should only worry about the spouse and how you feel. Other people are not the ones paying the bills and having to deal with your everday life.
2007-07-14 17:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I work while hubby takes care of the house. At first he wasn't comfortable not working because of the way we're programmed by society. After I told him that I don't measure a man by how much he makes, but how he treats others, he is totally happy with the situation.
2007-07-14 19:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because women have equal rights? what does that have to do with you you're not a woman??
If any thing go to school and get an education so can think of a better argument than the lame one you presented here!!
2007-07-14 16:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sure. If you want to be the "house husband" and/or stay at home dad. As long as you and your partner agree, and she makes the most money and you guys can afford it, I say go for it.
2007-07-14 16:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In any Equality, one side is always more equal than the other.If you think that because of equality between both genders you can benefit from it by taking a women's role, you fooling your self.
The society we live in expect from the men to to give concession but not to change in it essence.No women will support a man not working.Basically what make a man attractive to a women is the security he provide in front of uncertainty.
Feminism sex equality serve the selfish girlie fantasy of womens who always wanted to venture to man's domain.It's like a selfish reaction in opposition of society values, just for the sake of putting feet to a man realm.
When their job get too hard, they usually back off or ask the help of a man for help. In Sweden they had to buy special ultra light ladder because female fire-fighter could not use the heavy one.
Companies forced to hire women had to hire supplement man just to help women who couldn't lift heavy weight.In Montreal three police women shut and kill an aggressive homeless man who only weight 168lb. They couldn't manhandling him.One male police would easily take control of that homeless without killing him
2007-07-14 17:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋