I've known this guy in college for 5 months and he's wanted to sit with me in classes and spend breaks with me. We think very much alike and have the same values. But he hasn't wanted to have a drink with me all this time, and says he's too busy to do anything other than sit together in classes.
Can anyone be too busy for someone they're excited about being friends with??
2007-07-14 09:33:18 · 24 answers · asked by joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
PS He drinks!
2007-07-14 09:47:52 · update #1
that guy seems kind of funny to me.
but it shouldn't matter to you that he doesn't want to do something. what if he has his reasons?
if YOU think of him as a true friend, you would simply accept that that's how he acts. and trust him.
if you can't trust him, how can you call him a FRIEND??!
2007-07-14 09:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Hero's Heroine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially when you go to College. He may have a night-job, or may have to study and doesn't want a few drinks to turn into an all-nighter. On the other hand, he may feel safe and "friendly" at school, but senses you may see him as more than just a friend and wants to avoid a confrontation. Or, he might travel in a different circle of friends than he does while attending classes who may not present the image of himself he wants you to see. Or, he might come from a poor or a rich background and wants to avoiding probing questions on personal issues.
The bottom line is that he is willing to be your friend in class...that alone is worth something. My advice would be for you to be a good friend and respect his wishes. Back off a bit and he may decide to have that drink with you after all.
2007-07-21 15:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, I mean you are both students in college, and there's a fair amount of work associated with that life outside of classroom time to make ends meet. If you'll forgive the observation though, you sound almost romantically interested in which case your perception of time will likely be somewhat skewed.If that's the case, maybe you should ask more probing questions as time permits. Good luck.
2007-07-14 10:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is drinking so important to you? You should be concentrating on your classes, he is trying to get an education and possibly after he does, he will take more interest in 'friends' He does not have time for a relationship like you are apparently after. Give him time to make up HIS mind what he is going to do with his life.
2007-07-22 05:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! He could be too busy. Never Rush a friendship. I think that people are in your life for reasons and seasons. This means to me that this person might not need to spill into other parts of your life. We tend to run across something we like and then overdose on it apply it to everything in our life. That's not always the best thing.
2007-07-22 07:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Been Real All My Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, 1 can be very bussy to that extent but to prove yr friendship with him, prepare yr self and after college tell him that u want to have a drink with him. infact it may work if u put it at a later time, say like, in a wks time. good luck
2007-07-14 09:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by TOKILO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is unsure of his sexuality, or is gay and feels either he will make a fool of himself in drink, or feels he will 'come out' and it might ruin the friendship!
2007-07-14 10:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to limit his friendship to just college, being friends at college does not mean that you have to socilize outside of it, leave the ball in his court now and enjoy the friendship for what it is
2007-07-15 09:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he seemz a bit iffy, he may b usin u so he iznt on hiz todd or he haz 2 lk after sum1 and he duznt want 2 tell any1!just ask him y?
2007-07-14 10:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by xxprincess mexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is a teetotal and has a drink probable ask him out to see a film or some think else
2007-07-14 10:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by shirley v 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋