how come people bully other kids for no reason???*?

Question

one i saw a girl get jumped by 4 girls in the alley ontha way from school....after they jumped her they put her in a dumpster...i went over there to see if she was ok,her face was swollen and she was bleeding real bad....i got so scared i thought they was going to back for her so i toke her in my houseand showwed her my grandmother....me and my grandmother toke good care of herthen we call the police....
the next day the police came to her school and told her to pick out the ones that jumped her....after she picked them out they went to juvinile halls.....now we are bestfriends.......

Answer 1

Good question...jealousy, feelings of inadequacy, getting an adrenaline rush from evil, having no positive role models at home, not going to church, not being made to suffer consequences of negative behavior, boredom with negative consequences. Good for you and your Grandmother. I would have done the same, in fact I have and I'm only 5'3" so I do know that doing the right thing has nothing to do with physical size. It has more to do with having a grandmother or someone who teaches what the right thing to do is---thank God for good Grandmothers.

Answer 2

I can't say I know a definitive answer for why people bully other kids. I was a victim of bullying myself as a child and it didn't stop until I fought back. I had a speech impediment that made me talk very slowly. This was the trait that I always got teased about. Other people get picked on for other reasons, anyone who is different or doesn't fit in with the rest of the kids. It seems like bullies act almost like predators in the wild. They attack anyone who strays from the herd. Anyone who does not have a large group around them for protection may seem like easy prey. But I am only speculating. I was a bit of a loner and you said the girl you helped was alone. I fought back and I knew how to win. It took a couple of years before the bullies finally got too scared to start a fight with me and then I made sure they didn't hurt anyone else while I was around. I made a lot of friends out of the people who didn't have many friends before. I never picked a fight or sought one out but I was never going to let someone come to harm if I could stop it. I'm very proud of what you did for the girl who became your friend. I Still Don't know what turns bullies into predators. But that seems to be the way their minds work. They just want to hurt people and the isolated, different people make the easiest prey.

Answer 3

People do not bully for no reason, there is always a crappy justification. Mostly I'd say that bullies are looking to prove their own worth in the social order. To establish a social order one must know who is above them and who is below. Bullies usually establish dominance over the weakest and most isolated first. You could be a midget with a speach disorder but if you were standing beside JamesL is the school lunch room then you did not get picked on. Social isolation is important because there is no loss of social standing if they hurt someone with no friends.

A bully is NOT a coward. This is a common phrase thrown out by idiots who want to establish themselves as higher in the social order than the bullies. Not so smart if you ask me. Being a bully shows that you have limited social skills (primative really). That's usually caused by abuse. In fact most bullies are abused in some fashion and tend to feel inferior to their abuser. That's why they seek out someone inferior to themselves to abuse. JamesL my have beat up the bullies but it did not stop being teased himself because he was still isolated and different. The teasing was only different because they were scared of him. Sorry brother.
The worst part about bullies is that they do recieve the praise they are seeking. They get everyone to laugh at their target and make themselves feel better and more accepted. This makes for more and worse behavior. If you all shun the bully and denounce them then they'd find a new way to gain acceptance.

You may look at bullies anyway you like, I prefer seeing them in crosshairs.

Answer 4

I am glad you and your grandmother took care of this perfect stranger and now friend. That's great! We have a problem in America that has hit all of us in the most negative ways, especially our youth. A developed disregard for life. Most youth see no need for education, but, what is most important to them is money, money, money and materialistic things. The easiest way to get this,is to just take it from innocent people. You can hear the lyrics through hip hop music and through every high dollar Hollywood movies. (brainwashed through the media and today's music) The youth of today are believing this to be true. All the traditions that were taught to us through our grandparents/parents, school teacher's and family friends have been robbed through gangsta hipped rap music and displayed hatred for one another in Hollywood blockbuster movies. Children fall for this !@#$! We need to be more vigilant to each other and not afraid to help someone in need. You are a very brave and compassionate person. Don't let anyone coerce you to change your ways, to include the media and today's music. Bless you!

Answer 5

It hides who they are inside and don t want to appear weak, or reveal their true themselves (not being liked) out of insecurities and acceptance from past situations and the feeling of winning. It is dominance and getting ahead. Too much importance to people like that that can make them look unkind.

How you view people and society as a whole can determine how you interact with others and yourself. They have a hard time showing, or expressing their true selves and think they can t be accepted, so they pick on someone that they wish they could be and hide their flaws on people they think are different. Weak minded people bully more than anyone with egos. Thats how they get their egos from they re insecurities, fear, jealousy, rage, and hurt shines through the moment they pick on 1 person that they see is successful, or aren t afraid to be weak, or themselves around others. They want that and can be selfish to take away their success and happiness that they earned and worked for.

They hold a jealous grudge, or grudges on society, and feel stronger, more powerful to feel in control of their hidden emotions, mistakes, and past failures. People who bully have a hard time dealing with issues and with being socially accepted. They could be naturally shy and think they are pushed to be someone they aren t. If they learn to stop impressing others, they will be happier.

I bet if you put them in the corner and get them to cry, you ll finally see the REAL them that they have been hiding and holding back from. Sad part is anyone can go through life feeling this way about themselves and continue to laugh, belittle, or try to harm someone for not simply letting go of that control they hold onto so much to feel important and gaining attention. If they can t have that power, or control.. they feel helpless. Dealt with some people like that and their pride does get in away and it causes damage. No one is being forced to live they way they do, they make choices for themselves. If they can t better their lives, they ll continue being miserable and quitting on themselves. Bullies are quitters, not just cowards. Also, if they have had things handed to them on a silver platter, they become spoiled and their egos gets in the way even more. Bullying begins with themselves, can t blame the parents, or others for how they treat others all the time. Its all a choice.. free will.

Answer 6

It is not just people bulling other people. Any species that percisce on of their own as weak will go after that person, dog, chicken, ect This unfortunatly is just survival of the fittest.
My daughter was picked on all of the time in school because she was percieved to be "different" from the other kids and they realized that this was a form of "pushing her buttons" so to speak.
It is very sad for the people who get picked on. Good for you and your grandmother for having the courage to come to her aid in her time of need.

Answer 7

Briana,
Bullies are all cowards...four girls beating on one! Bullies hate themselves so much that they project this hate onto others. They are the sad lost souls that by their lowly actions attract more troubles into their lives.

You, however, showed your worth by helping someone else. For this you will receive a blessing. :)

Answer 8

Because it gives them a false sense of being big and important, but they are actually cowards,picking only on those who cannot fend for themselves.

Answer 9

there is always a reason like...there fat...or geeky or maybe poor. those are all good reasons for bullying