Are my friends being jerk assholes or do they just don't care about me anymore?

Question

I'm 13 & I used 2 b in a group of really close friends @ school (4-5). Recently in the past 6 months or so, i've been feeling neglected and disowned. My friends never waited for me after lessons yet they all wait for each other. they get up and go when i'm half eating my lunch as I am a slow eater yet they wait for everyone else 2 finish. they talk about stuff i dunno the hell about. they leave me out a lot & hardly pick me for a partner in stuff. i've told one friend before about this but nothing was done. i've also fell out with another one of them because i expressed my feeling 2 them. i've left the group now & found a few more friends =]. they didn't seem affected when i left & don't seem bothered. heck, they seem 2 be having a great time without me! they never speak 2 me only when they're on their own. i used 2 best friends with one at the start of Y7 & the same with another, then our friendship broaded and became a group of 5. now i stand alone. any reason for their actions? =[

Answer 1

Unfortunately your age group lends itself to immature, petty indifferences being cause for social judgement and girls are usually worse than boys. Be mature and live by the golden rule, treat others as you would like to be treated and rise above the petty snobbery of your so called friends, only makes one wonder how good of friends they can really be to treat someone the way you are being treated. Over time you will realize they arent all that special to begin with and your loyal friends who like you for who you really are the ones who you will want to be spending time with.

Answer 2

These things happen, sweetie. Just one of life's painful little lessons. These kids weren't friends at all. They are a clique, and a clique only works if you have someone to exclude. Sounds like they've excluded you. (see site below)

Look for new friends. Sounds like you're doing that already. Good for you. Vow to yourself to be a good and loyal friend to others, and good and loyal friends will be drawn to you. Some may even become life long friends.

And don't worry about the others because they weren't true friends in the first place.