im so scared! i have no idea what to do, my last period was on the 17th of june.my period was due a few days ago and i noticed that i never had it so i finally took a pregnancy test and its postive i have no idea what to do.. im 19 years old... i had no idea. my period was due about two days ago..i feel fine and felt fine i just wondered why i didnt start! im just also worried because before i knew i was late i went to a few get togethers and i drank...alcoholl!! i didnt know though.... and i went tanning what am i gonna do...i had no idea i cant tell anyone im too scared someone please help me and give me advice i feel like im gonna pass out right now... please help me... i am scared! i didnt know i was and now im scared something is wrong.. please no rude answers im not feeling well.
2007-07-14 08:49:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i forgot to say also i am in a long term relationship so this was not just with anyone... but im also too scared to tell him.
2007-07-14 08:51:01 · update #1
Thanks everybody that answered my question it really helps to know that there are other people who went through this and im not alone. i just cant believe it i was on birth control but i stoped of course now... but i know that God will get me through this.
2007-07-14 09:17:10 · update #2
okay i know the feeling but it will be okay i got pregnant with my love at 17 and i am still with her daddy it is wonderful i hated myself at first and there will not be any birth defects i drank till i was like a month pregnant i didnt know though. there is nothing to be scared about it is wonderful being a parent if you need to talk e-mail me please dont give up you will love it in the long run. p.s you need to tell him he might be pissed if you dont if he dosent like it just know that GOD will not give you nothing that you can not handle and go pray about it.
2007-07-14 08:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by caramelpassion88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. Everything will be OK. There are worse things in the world than your current situation. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it'll all be OK.....
Call your doctor on Monday and get an appointment ASAP. You need to verify the pregnancy and start getting prenatal care. Tell your doctor about the alcohol and tanning. I'm sure the baby is fine though. That's assuming you didn't drink a whole keg nor do 10 shots of tequila. A couple beers is manageable, but STOP DRINKING NOW! And I would stop tanning as well. Ask the doctor as many questions as you can possibly think up. That's their job. In fact, start writing them down now so that you won't forget anything at the appointment.
As for the baby's father, take it one day at a time. I wouldn't suggest calling him while you are THIS upset. Once you calm down, just talk to him calmly and rationally. Let him know that you had a positive pregnancy test. Ask him if he'd like to go with you to the doctor on Monday. That's all you can do at this point. Just take slow deep breathes and relax. This isn't the end of the world. I promise.
2007-07-14 09:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've been drinking continually for the past three weeks you probably have nothing to worry about. And the tanning shouldn't be a big deal either, as long as it was only a few times.
Your pregnancy is only three weeks along (although doctors will call it five weeks because of the date that your last period started.) Your baby is only a collection of cells right now, and your chances of having a healthy baby are good, especially if you begin a healthy lifestyle that includes prenatal vitamins and moderate exercise.
You're going to have to figure out what to do about your pregnancy by yourself. You're young and scared and weren't planning to have a child. Talk to your boyfriend and make a decision that you can both live with.
You should also talk to your parents. It will be difficult, but they can be surprisingly supportive at a time like this.
2007-07-14 09:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, Stress is not good for you or the baby.
First of all, there are alot of mothers that drink when they first become pregnant because they do not know that they are. Most babies are totally fine Just be sure to tell you dr. and about the tanning to.
Secondly make an apointment ASAP because you need to get started on your prenatal vitimins, they help the baby develop. Not that it wont if you dont take them but its much better for the baby if you do. Please do not stress out about this, you have been blessed with a baby, how excited and yes scary at first if its not planned. Were you taking birth control? If you were then sometimes these things just happen, if you were not taking any....well ...how did you not know this was going to happen lol. Tell your boyfriend, at least it was not just some random fling, Belive me he may be scared to so give it some time to sink in, and in the end if he doesnt stay then you dont need the looser anyway. If he is a real man and a good one he will step up and be happy and take care of both you and your new baby. Good luck.....ps this is just my personal opinion, dont just rush out and get married just because you are going to have a baby, go ahead and let your relationship develop first. Just dont rush into things.
Good luck, you and baby will be fine. Congrats and call your OB or find one.
2007-07-14 08:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One drink early in pregnancy won't hurt. Just as long as you stop drinking for the rest of the pregnancy, you'll be fine.
The emotional roller coaster you're on right now is totally understandable, I mean I'm turning 19 tomorrow and I can't even begin to imagine how I would feel if I learned I was pregnant. You should call 1-800-395-HELP to talk to a trained counselor. I'm always available by email too if you just need another ear.
You're going to get rude answers, I guarantee it- probably something along the lines of "ur a whore get an abortion you dont deserve a baby you selfish slut." Don't pay any attention to them, it will only encourage them. You're not the first person with a question like this and you definitely won't be the last.
<3 Kelsey
2007-07-14 08:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared!! I was and kinda still am in the same place as you are. i am now 9 weeks prego. I had missed my period and didnt really think iwas prego but just took the test to make sure, to find out I AM!! I am also in a long term relationship(3 years) i was VERY scared to tell my boyfriends @ first. I have ONLY told him so far. We are deciding when we should tell everyone else because it is a scary situation. we dont no what everyone else will say!! About the drink and tanning, you will be fine. It probably happened before you consived and if not it still way to early to hurt the baby. You DO need to tell your boyfriend(@ least) but i also incourage you to tell your guys' families, but tht is up to you(if you do and when). if you dnt have medical insureance i advise you talk to your parents. I dont have medical insurance and i havnt gone to the docters yet, and you dont want to go through wondering if your baby if fine everyday. just think really hard about this and tell your boyfriend. you two cantalk trough this and figure out what to do. P.S. if you dont tell anyone at least get your vitemins ASAP they will help your babys development, and help your baby be more healthy.
2007-07-14 09:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK don't worry - it will work out. Same thing happened to me when I was 19 and I lived with my parents. It was very scary and I also had a few drinks without knowing I was pregnant. All is fine - my son is now 13 and an honor roll student, gifted guitar player and avid fish enthusiast. I married his father and we have 2 other sons. You have to just relax and realize it will all work out. Are you with the father? If so, let him help you with the stress. If you aren't with him, then you need to talk to someone - family, friends - and let them in on it and see what advice and assistance they can offer you. I didn't want to tell my parents (very strict!), and it was terrible doing so at the time, but the bad times pass and you'll be left with a wonderful baby....I will pray for you....are you ready to take the baby on? You probably feel like a kid yourself, but you can do more than you think you can....we can handle things that seem impossible...just hang in there. I kept my baby and I would never ever change that.
2007-07-14 08:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by JMC 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
calm down your going to blow a gasket please go and see a gp to get it confirmed the test could be wrong your in a good realtionship you have quite a few options available have the baby and get it adopted, keep the baby, or have an abortion i left this till last because of your state of mind at the moment you are a bit irrational i dont think at this early stage of pregnancy th alcohol will have done any harm as most women have a drink and like you dont know their pregnant as for the tanning i think you will be ok but mention it to the doc anyway i know your scared all pregnant women feel the same you are not alone and you dont have to deal with this alone go to a brook advisory clinic or citizens advice bureau after seeing gp and it is confirmed either way you need to speak to you boyfriend about this and then decide were to go from there if he loves you he will support you whatever u decide to do it will be his baby to good luck
2007-07-14 09:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by lisagrndy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down! First get in to see your doctor for your first pregnancy visit, he or she will draw blood, a urine sample for confirming pregnancy, blood pressure, pap smear, height, weight and basically your tipical physical, dont stress out when you stress, your blood presssure gets high and it can affect the baby, when your heart races, as does your babies so calm down the best you can, you're 19 at least most girl who say theyre pregnant are like 13! Meaning you have way more responsibility, but you still ahve options, have you decided to keep the baby, if so make sure its the right choice for you! Congrats and enjoy this time rightnow, its a lot of work and anxiety, I know, I'm 17 and 12 weeks pregnant and I was just like you, get in to see the doctor, he or she will confirm everything is okay and as it should be and youll be fine!! Best wishes and congrats! PS. good for you finding a man thatll be there for you! Just sit him down for a talk, im sure hell understand! Congrats again!
2007-07-14 08:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by SuGaBeAr** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Calm down a lot of people don't know they are pregnant in the beginning and do the same exact things you did. So just calm down. Call your obgyn and make and appointment to find out how far along you are exactly and they will help you with all your concerns.
Also, if the guy that you have the long term relationship with is a good guy then you shouldn't have any worries telling him. I suggest you tell him soon though.
Good luck! And congrats to you.
2007-07-14 08:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off the drinking dont worry about it. Most women dont know their pregnant till about 4 weeks along and they drank a little and their babies turned out fine. Tanning isnt good but its so early that there is nothing to worry about however in the future stay out of tanning beds and hot tubs.
I painted a kitchen with oil based paints which is bad and drank some alcohol before I found out I was pregnant the doctor reasurred me that everything is fine.
2007-07-14 08:55:22 · answer #11 · answered by Indiana Raven 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋