I am in Singapore & hubby is in Costa Rica for 2 weeks.His father & my parents met for the first time today in Singapore which is a big deal in my culture but hubby seem to have forgotten it eventhough its a weekend today. Didn't call to ask until I called him to tell him about it. Is this a big sign of being uncaring & that I am not as important to him anymore?
2007-07-14 08:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by pots 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have no children and we have been married for 1 year and 2 months. He is not a Singaporean, he is a Canadian & is in Costa Rica for work. I have not seen my husband for 2 months as I came back to visit my family & he has to work.As for time change, its night here but its morning there & he was already awake.When I finally called him, he was already up & ready to go out with his colleagues, not even remembering about the parents meeting eventhough we just talked about it yesterday.It was dissapointing.
2007-07-14 09:07:19 · update #1
I had to stay in Canada for a year to wait for my PR hence this time I came back to see my parents who is having some problems.I am trying to call him up and there is no one answering the phone.I have a real bad feeling.Please help :(
2007-07-14 09:30:32 · update #2
No he doesn't speak Spanish. Why?
2007-07-14 09:44:43 · update #3
Noo honey maybe he was overwhelmed by this whole parents meeting each other thing.. just relax he probably was busy or something.
2007-07-14 08:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more specific details of your marriage (IE, is he Singaporean too? How long have you been married? Any children? etc) I would say he is not doing this on purpose.
Most likely he is preoccupied with work (especially travelling halfway across the world) and with the different time changes, etc. If he is there for 2 weeks, that sounds like he has a lot to be doing in those 2 weeks and doesn't want to mess it up.
Plus with the different time zones, it's SO easy to get mixed up about what is going on when in what time zone.
Give him the benefit of the doubt for now, and when he gets back explain to him your feelings. Let him know that you need him to understand that something like this is important to you. Give him the opportunity to make it up to you in the future without feeling as if you do not trust him.
Remember that he is doing this job for you, to help you and to make a family with you. I know it's easy for us girls to immediately think something they do means they don't love us anymore - but usually it's not what we think. Especially if this is an isolated incident.
On a side note, I used to live in Singapore!! (Right behind the Pine Tree Club on Balmoral Park.) It's been 12 years and I still miss it like it was yesterday :)
2007-07-14 08:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pandamay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something else is on his mind. Two months is a long time to be away from your husband. It's not good for a marriage to have that sort of separation. Was there an emergency that you had to leave him?
2007-07-14 09:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come from different cultures. Maybe he does not understand how important some things are to you.
Not a sign of uncaring. Just maybe not understanding how important you think it is.
2007-07-14 09:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are forgetful & don't always think what's important to you is important to him.
It's very typical of American men albeit all men. So I would not worry too much. Aren't you in a different time zone?
2007-07-14 09:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he speak Spanish?
2007-07-14 09:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Wavydave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does sound selfish and self absorbed.
2007-07-14 09:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to tell maybe he is just overwhelmed by work
2007-07-14 09:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably had business on his mind don't take it so personally
2007-07-17 01:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋