My friend Ben and I were really good friends but then his mom died and a lot of things ahppend ( my mom died a month before) Ben shut me out of his life but yet was talking to others and would totaly ignore me. And when I did talk to him, he'd ionly say a couple words and then have to go. But last night I just saw him for the first time in months and he said he was sorry fr what he had done and that he loved me.All these old feelings came back and I don't know what to do?
2007-07-14 08:18:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think he's not playing with you. Maybe, he really fell in love with you but he tried to fight on what he's feeling about you. it's really hard for a guy to fight hes true feelings on something. mostly when it comes to love. and i think he was really sorry about what he had done to you. try to give him another chance. =)
2007-07-14 08:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by o2c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he's not playing with your emotions. I'm sorry to hear about both your losses, but my guess his absence after his mother passed was because of your similiar situation. Some people tend to run away and shut out stress which includes anything that may remind them of that stressor, such as yourself. I'm sure it was nothing personally against you, but it may have been hard for him to see you, being a reminder that you both lost someone close. Now that he has had time to work through some of his own emotions, he probably is trying to rekindle the friendship you both once had. You must make a decision for yourself and decide if letting him back in your life will be beneficial to you. You're hurting yourself and needed a friend to be there for you, but just remember we all handle stress differently. If you feel it's right, you could both become closer and confide in each other when you're both feeling down, but again, make sure his feelings and emotions are sincere and not just irrational. I hope things work for you, good luck!
2007-07-14 09:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN
please run for your life. you do not deserve to be hurt, made to feel like some kind of rebound Cos its bound to in future, you didn't get an explanation for all that drama in the first place now how are you sure it wont happen again. being in love is good, healthy, thrilling, most of all you feel alive, look on the bright side, love yourself more and no one will take advantage like this man. please think this through.
2007-07-14 08:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by blackbooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was trying to work through his grief and when he saw you it brought it right back like a slap in the face, now that you both are speaking again try to be there for each other as you both know how hard these times are for each other
2007-07-18 06:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋