I have a past affair in college life.Though it is one sided but still it is very important part of my life.I was studying in B.sc final year when I fell in love with a girl.But she refuses my prposal.Due to which I suffered from severe depression at that time.Now I am perfectly all right and that girl also get married and she has a kid.But I am still unmarried because I keep distance from every girl after that incident.You can say this my negative attitude but it is true.Now in future If I get married I should tell my wife about my past affair or not?
2007-07-14 08:16:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if you are unmarried, then you don't have a wife. But if you do meet someone special in the future, your life with her begins then. The past is past. It is likely she will have had previous boyfriends before she met you - just as you have met someone before. Don't make an issue of it.
All your life experiences have made you the person you are - including loving someone else long ago. If you keep every girl at a distance, afraid of being hurt again - you are missing out on opportunities to find the real shining love of your life. Jump into the pool and start swimming!!
2007-07-14 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by bluebell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one you should tell her is the one that caused you to be depress. All the other females didn't mean anything. All it would do is bring bad feeling for your future wife. She will see these ladies and the jealousy may come out then you will be sorry you told her anything about them.
What matters is the way you will feel about her. You say you are a better,yet you seem not too sure of yourself.
You need to let go of your past before you can move forward with someone who is very deserving of your love. The one who hurt you real bad, well, let her go. Just tell your new love about her.
If you future love ask questiosn about your past with females,you need to tell her that its your past and that you love her only.
The past is the past. Leave it there.
The very best to you.
2007-07-14 15:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Aroundthebout T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it is something that you want to share, then yes, but honestly, if it's in the past, what are you going to gain from telling a future woman about it. If you find a woman and fall in love with her, and this other woman means nothing to you anymore in that way, then why make your future wife feel as though your heart is not fully hers?
2007-07-14 15:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? It's not like you were married when you were with this girl. It doesn't sound like she was married at the time either, so technically it's not an affair.
If you feel the need to reveal your past life to people, then go ahead, but IMHO no harm, no foul.
2007-07-14 15:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still distancing girls because of this , then you are not alright . I suggest you have some counseling to get over this so you can led a productive life, and enjoy it to the fullest. There is someone out there that would love to have you.
2007-07-14 15:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean your future wife? No. There is no need. We all have a history.... when you meet your future wife, she will for sure hope that you had some experience with love.... to go into the specific details of how totally devastated your were, how it sunk you into the depths of depression, yadayada..... in inappropriate, and childish.
2007-07-14 15:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-07-14 15:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the point in talking about a crippling one sided affair you had - with a woman you haven't dated, courted or even met yet?
2007-07-14 15:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it buddy. do you think that you are the only person who has ever had a broken heart. Quit Pining over her. God! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. No don't talk about past relationships bad idea. Why would you want to bring up the past anyway. get some counseling my friend i think it may help you.
2007-07-14 15:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by JillardG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need to get some counseling to GET OVER IT and in the future whether you talk about it with another girl will be up to you.
2007-07-14 15:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋