My BFF was going out with this guy a few months ago. they broke up and i am dating him. we've been dating for two months. My friend and him were goingout for 3 weeks. Last week my friend just found out she is pregnant with my boy friend's child. This leaves me in a wierd possition. Should I let my boy friend tske on to fatherhood or tell him i want to stay with him. Plus we are only 17 so.....yeah.
2007-07-14 07:48:51 · 14 answers · asked by robertson_1995 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whether or not you stay with your boyfriend, he is still responsible for the child that he fathered. Make your decision accordingly. (By the way, what kind of girl goes out with her friend's ex and what kind of friend gets pregnant by someone after dating someone for only three weeks? You all sound like quite a group!)
2007-07-14 08:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tough situation. let him know that you still want to be with him, while also letting him accept the role of fatherhood. support him in every way. letting him be the father of his child and carry out his fatherly duties doenst mean that you two still can't stay together. It'll be rough, don't get me wrong, but try to see if your relationship can withstand it. let him know you are there for him no matter what, as a friend. ultimately, it is up to him on what he wants to do, and whether he can be both your boy friend and a father.
2007-07-14 14:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by roxy22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off u should never mess around with someone who was involved with a friend, it can only lead to so sort of problem with one or all the people involved..there are far too many people on this earth to have to be with someone ur friend was with, maybe if it was a long long time ago and nobody cares...but anyway of course he should be a father, he got her pregnant he has to take care of his responsibility. Like u said ur 17 move on before it becomes too complicated to deal with. I think ur friend will respect u more if you do this also.
2007-07-14 14:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by cece715 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hon... i know where your coming from i've been in a similar situation. But i was only 13. It is hard,. But you are only 17 years old. that is really young, so if you don't see a future for you and ur man, then leave him. There's nothing more embarassing than having a girl walkin around school with your bio's baby. You have only dated for 2 months.... plus if he's known as a playa( dating ur friend for only 2 weeks, then hooking up with you after they had sex.????)he'll prolly do it again.
you know wat 2 do listen to ur heart. if you need anything else feel free to contact me. your in my prayers.
2007-07-14 14:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by lil_tropic_sweetie_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, u DEAD wrong to be dating your best friend's ex. second, u need to step back and let them deal with the STUPID situation they just created. kids having kids and trying to take on adult situations only turn out to hurt the kid in the end. because they get 2 immature teenagers trying to be adults, yet don't know what that means. if ur best friend is smart, she'll take a trip the clinic, ask GOD for forgiveness, stop dealing with u and him, and get on her with her life and start making some smart decisions for her future.
2007-07-14 14:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by tweety3282001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's true that this is his child, you have no say in this situation. I would encourage him to get a DNA test just to be on the safe side.
If you choose to stay with him, you have to accept that this child will be in his life. If you cannot accept that, then you are not ready for a mature, adult relationship.
2007-07-14 14:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonflies NH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you still living with your parents? if you are then you should ask them for advice... i think you should let your boy friend go if its possible...so you and your boy friend and you bff won't be in such an wierd possition hope everything works out I'll kepp you in my prayers...and next time consider who you are going out with because at your age your not supposed to be even dealing with these kinds of problems...
2007-07-14 14:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by I ♥ Big Bang! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have been ******* with your friends ex anyway
s: then you wouldnt be in this situation.
secondly, if those two didnt want to be parents then they shoudlnt have been screwing around in the first place.
third, you should leave his sorry ***. he isnt worth you or your friends time. hes a loser
:// and if you still live with your parents, you should ask them about this-- people on the internet wont give you the ideal advice you are looking for.
2007-07-14 15:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally he has to take care of the baby, it's not a matter of if you will let him. You are in a tough spot though. Talk with your bff mommy to be and see what she says about it.
2007-07-14 15:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first check if it really is his child. and if it is then u shld let them be the parents and leave them alone. and u shldnt be with ur best friends ex cuz sumthin like this cld happen
2007-07-14 15:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by lalala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋