Why do young gays...?

Question

get such a hard time when they first come out. I came out in the fifth grade, and everyone was like, you're a child and you may not be a les, it's just hormones. Well, it's been several years and guess what...I STILL LIKE GIRLS!!!

So why is it that when a young person comes out, that everyone, even LGBTs, try to say that you shouldn't identifiy yourself just yet, because it could just be a "mistake."

Answer 1

most people will honestly have your best intentions at heart, but that doesn't mean that they know best. when I was a very young child I knew I liked girls, but the only person I confided in was my best friend, who told an adult we both trusted.

I don't know, I still kinda wish I would came out sooner, but I was made afraid by my friend and the adult. They both told me the same thing, that I couldn't really know yet and I might regret making such a statement if I changed my mind. Well...nearly 18 years later..still haven't changed it!

Answer 2

I don't think you will ever know the true answer to this, simply because you are not a guy. You may have experienced similar emotions, but probably not the same ones.

Many kids, anywhere from 5 or 6 way up to 16 and 17 like to experiment with the other gender, even though they may not be gay. It's human nature to wonder what your fellows are thinking and going through. If they have masturbated at all, or had sex.

So when they say, "You Shouldn't indentify just yet", they are right, because it could always just be a "phase." With that said, I believe that you can decide that young, because there is a difference between wanting to experiment, and being full blown wanting to love and "love" guys, and not having any attraction to the opposite sex.

As for coming out, LGBT, is not widely accepted in America. The biggest fear of a lot of people is, not being accepted by the majority. A lot of people think there is nothing worse than being the outcast.

Answer 3

The reason they tell you this is to protect you. They want you to be absolutely sure of what and who you are before committing yourself. The problem stems from the fact that some of your peers are less in tune with their feelings and will deliberately seek to make you life HEll. Also your perceived lack of experience within relationships and the changes in your body may cause you to make a choice you later regret. Hey women get emotional and broody at times but then so do some men

I realise it must seem frustrating, but we all have such individual needs and I personally still feel a little mixed up as regards who I find especially attractive (and I am by no means particularly young - young at heart maybe:).

Don't sweat it - they will eventually trust that you can make your own decisions and and that you can be expected to be strong enough to live with the consequences - just try to build that trust up

Answer 4

It is possible for someone going through adolescence to have homosexual feelings which will pass as they mature. Some people advise adolescents who think they might be gay to take their time and be sure before they start making big decisions because they may regret them later on. Of course this doesn't happen to everyone, but it's good to realize that adolescence is a period of great change and confusion and hormone imalances, so one should be careful when deciding something will last forever. (I remember my "I love Blink-182 and I'll never stop loving them!" phase!)

Naturally, adolescents tend to assume that they are old enough to know everything about life and the world, especially when they are told they don't. That is a phase that everyone goes through. So some adults will take any declaration that a young person makes with a grain of salt, assuming it's probably just another phase.

I wouldn't say that it would be a "mistake," just that it's hard to be certain of anything at that age. Many gay/bi people do realize their orientation at a young age, and I think that's great, but many people take a lot longer to fully figure things out. I am 22 now, and I didn't realize I was a lesbian until I was 17. For years before that I had lots of confusion about who I was attracted to - it's very common for this to happen.

Good for you for figuring things out so early! And kudos as well on not being shy about it or afraid to come out.

Answer 5

Because its common for guys and girls to experience same sex attraction during there teens and for some people its just a phase while for others its who they truly are . IT takes time or it usual takes time to find ur true self cause the way u feel as a teen may not be the way u feel as an adult there for if u come out at a young age(ex 12) then years later u may come out as some thing else ,it happens.

Answer 6

Hi there,

I am bisexual. I enjoy my men, but I have liked girls from very early on. I came out to my close friends first. And it spread around the school pretty quickly. My true girl friends remained friends with me, but seriously thought I was just trying to get attention. Boys either wanted nothing to do with me or thought it was hot and wanted to watch (rolls eyes). Faculty must have caught wind because my homeroom teacher sent me off to meet with the guidance counsellor. Whom agreed not to talk to my parents, as I hadn't been caught doing anything "wrong".

One of my girlfriends believed me because she felt the same. This is how my parents finally found out. They caught us in my room during a sleep over.

They put me in counselling the very next week. They kept me away from my friend/lover and moved us to another city a short time later.

Well, none of it worked. I slept with my boyfriend last night and my girly playmate will be over in a few hours for some action.

I think people just don't understand. It's not a choice. It just is. They can't see or think outside the neat and safe little box.

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

Because some people still refuse to believe; or I should say still deny the fact that homosexuals are born that way. In that way they can feel comfortable and justified with their prejudices and hatred; even to small children.

This is usually because they have suppressed their own homosexual desires all their lives and are jealous of those who have lived their own lives in happiness and fulfillment. Don't let them get you down. Just feel sorry for them.

Good luck and have a happy life.

Answer 8

People seem to think that at such a young age we don't understand how we feel but others seem to know better! which in my opinion is complete bull, i mean who do you honestly know better than yourself?

Answer 9

I believe it is best to stay away from labels period. If you like girls, fine- embrace it. It's not a mistake if you decide somewhere down the line that you like boys too or prefer them to girls or stay exactly as you are- all options are valid. The very best policy is to be true to yourself and your feelings and not get hung up on terminology.

Answer 10

cos they wrongly think that children are not humans, or at least whole ones, people dont release that children have just the same range of emotions and feelings as any adult, their inteligence (not academic abality) can be as high as an adults


children are very remarkable
we should not underestimate them
look at war torn countries, children often survive better than adults!!!!
they are smart, they know what they want, the deserve more respect than us adults give them