Okay i have been married 3 yrs now and its been an extremely rock road even with counceling attempts.I dated my husband for 2.5 yrs during college it was love at first sight whem we first met and case of polar opposites attracting.I am Catholic and he is Jewish but we also have very different mind sets on how things should be done,how the world works, situations handled,family values,and morals(he is conservative/i am more open minded)Our problems started after our son (unplanned)who is almost 3 yrs old now was born and i refused to convert to juadism.My husband wanted our son to be circumsized and i said NO! We fight non -stop on how our son should be raised hubby wants him brought up Jewish.I want our son to learn about both are relgions so he can choose.We spent a year seperated hubby recently moved back in and within a week the fighting started again.I want to just leave with my son and dont want anymore fights so do i just leave?
2007-07-14 07:14:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We recently found out my great gran dad was a nazi and my husband no longer looks at me the same?
I should also mention i am a Latina with mixed European backround.
2007-07-14 07:19:30 · update #1
I can no longer even stand to look at my husband and i can saftley say i no longer love him.
2007-07-14 07:28:56 · update #2
you married him face to face please have the decency to tell him it's over face to face.
I understand the problem of two differant religions and I think your right . Let your son learn both religions and then later choose for himself . It's going to be hard but talk to your husband and tell him what you want . Good Luck
2007-07-14 07:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by feistyirishme7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you claiming any religious beliefs at all?
Your church would not allow a divorce for the reasons you are giving!!
Why did you refuse to have your son circumcised? The biggest advantage for it is that it is a lot healthier, beside growing up as a child when he goes to school and is in sports he would be made to feel different, majority of males are circumcised!
That could be a possible self esteem issue as he matures.
Seems you are the one getting your way and you are not allowing your husband to be a man.
I agree that your son should be taught what both of you believe (LOVINGLY) But this child IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY!!
Your husband will teach his child what he wants during his visitation.
I think you have serious issues and are claiming things you aren't living..How will you explain that one to your son when he's older?..
Well I divorced your Dad because I wanted you raised to believe this..."But geez Mom, doesn't your faith teach this?...and you didn't do what you claim to believe?
I think you're on a power trip and there is more to this than meets the eye...
And YES, tell him you want a divorce Have some decency for a change.
I guess you forgot this one........GOD HATES DIVORCE!!
and the only exception to that is adultery and being physically abused.
I would bet you don't even know what the Bible teaches because you haven't bothered to read it. And faith to you is just a social get together
BTW...this comment is coming from a woman..I am using my hubby's yahoo profile.
2007-07-18 06:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel and Nancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone, you are married forever. None of the reasons you described is a reason to break an oath with God. He's not beating you or cheating on you. You owe it to your family to work on this relationship and it might take other methods than you have tried and it may take many many years. Marriage is not easy. Stop fighting and ending a family over a choice that your son may change in 15 years anyway. Is it worth it? You will hurt your son more by getting a divorce.
Who says you have the right to leave with HIS son?
2007-07-14 07:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by corryglory 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your husband and be straight up with. Let him know why and tell him that he'll be getting divorce papers soon. It's best if you tlak because you cna come to an agreement on chils custody, visitation etc... and that wont make it so hard on your son. And you TWO can sit down TOGETHER and explain it to your kids. BTW your husband has to learn that what ever your grand dad did in with his life, it was his life you had nothing to do with it.
2007-07-14 07:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by chula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im no counselor or anything, but i must say, I personally have never seen a marriage work out where both spouses were living under different religions.. i think you guys are over, but the sad thing is, is that you have a child together, and you both will probably always disagree on how and what religiose lifestyle he will be living. either way i think you have a rocky road ahead of you. good luck to you
2007-07-14 07:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by yowuzup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relation can be worked out is just talking to each other every relationship argues know if he hits there you have a reason to leave. but if you really want leave him give him the divorce paper. the process will take longer if he doesn't want divorce you. stay with him for you son. sorry you have been separated for a year than divorce him for abandoning the home leaving his child behind. get the divorce papers start the process.
2007-07-14 07:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, if the difference is over ideology (faith, religion etc), it can be hard, especially when it involves a kid. Same with fidelity.
Almost all other differences like money, cleaniness can be worked out.
I know I didn't answer your question, but I sympathize with you. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
2007-07-14 07:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by findandreplace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do don't leave your son behind because if you do you may lose custody of your child and if you choose to file for divorce make sure he doesn't get the exclusive right to religous training of your son and by the way, circumcision is not a bad thing. it's healthier for the child.
2007-07-14 11:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by coldplayfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if i was you don't walk out you will go no where first find a location to stay not your grandmothers house or sisters or friends cause they won't keep you long. you got to find a spot to stay and a job. Maybe another husband if possible then start your life from there. and take your kids with you its fun with kids or you might die from being bored.
2007-07-14 07:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take your son without telling you husband? that doesn't sound fair is he dangerous if so i suppose have an escape plan (somewhere to go) and tell him to his face if you can maybe have you son somewhere else at the time
2007-07-14 07:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by frankmly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋