been for a long time. He said he thinks about me all of the time and misses me all of the time. I met hih when we were next-door neighbors, about 8 years ago. We became close buddies, but nothiing inappropriate has ever happened between us. I have never even held his hand..nothing.. We meet for a beer about once a year and talk on the phone every now and then...That's ALL..and his wife is always invited to come with, she just never wants to. I feel guilty just the same. I feel like it's my fault. I told him that I will always be his friend, but nothing more. Should I sever all ties with him?
2007-07-14 06:41:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, sever all ties, by all means.
2007-07-14 06:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
While I don't think its necessary to sever all ties with him, you need to let him know that it doesn't matter how he thinks he feels about you, he's married and that's it. It doesn't sound like you're the type to try to come between two married people. I believe that a man can be attracted to more than one female, even when he's married, but he should love his wife enough not to act on any feelings he might develop for anyone else. And he should be so in love with his wife that the thought of having feelings for another woman just don't make sense to him. Loving someone and being "in love" with someone are two different things. I don't understand how he can be "in love" with you AND his wife. It sounds like somethings not right on his end, especially if you've never given him a reason to want you as more than a friend. If you've been friends for 8 years its hard to just break things off and not talk to each other anymore, but let him know that it might have to come down to that if he can't respect the boundaries of your friendship.
2007-07-14 13:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Kitty LIVES!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is unhappy in his relationship with his wife that's not your fault. If he was happy then he wouldn't be looking. so don't feel bad. Don't sever all ties but keep your distance for a while.
don't tell his wife, nobody likes a tattle tale
but also don't be the other woman.
Good Luck
2007-07-14 13:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Burns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault...and he is a pooh-head! he is idealizing you because you have never lived with him and dealt with him all of the time for years. i'm not doubting your friendship, but you might just be the grass on the other side if you see what i mean. tell him if he's really unhappy, he should deal with that himself and not project it onto you. and YES YES YES, sever all ties...your friendship as you knew it is over and will never be the same. i couldn't live my life knowing that someone used me for a reason to get out of a mariage--even though, i say again, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
2007-07-14 13:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by itsme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be open & clear with him...
He must realize that he was not being rational nor was he making any sense...
You MUST tell him to deal with realities as facts...
He needs to realize that u object to all he says UNLESS
U have a sort of a feeling towards him that u did not really explain or reveal to us...
Should that be the case, then all of the above should be dealt with as obsolete, and it is your call by all means Mme.
He could be VERY HONEST with his feelings, and that he was dealing with this issue differently & individually without u even being in the picture of how he regards u or thinks of u...
U need to be honest with yourself before all...U must be able to decide what that man means to u b4 u go ahead & shut all the doors...
Where does his relation with his wife end, or where is it going to? and how could he best describe it..? and what is your reaction towards this whole thing...? any chance at all that u had seen yourself with that man ever??? Is he divorcing her...? Are they in agreement on what comes up next between them both..? .....................etc. etc. etc....
These types of questions and many many others is what u need to answer 2urself b4 u listen to me & him & her of all of us replying to your question...
You are a wise Lady, Mme. , and having laid that question down to us make me believe u needed to hear both a Positive & a Negative reply...otherwise, u could ve simply dumped it and we could ve never known about it in the first place...
So be yourself and decide what exactly u r after, and simply make up your mind on all issues...
Have A PLUS & A MINUS SIGNS against each & every ADVANTAGE & DISADVANTAGE of ever considering or not considering that man in your life, and u r the only judge who would know exactly what it takes for you to decide....
Best of luck...and take a good care of yourself.
2007-07-14 14:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was in love with you, then why did he marry his wife? I don't think you should sever all ties with him because he's still a friend in your eyes.
2007-07-14 13:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of his marriage and yourfriendship, you should sever all ties with him, or at the very least discuss that this can never be what he wants it to be
2007-07-14 13:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Spark of Insanity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what is best young lady, you're pretty and intelligent. Save his marriage for him. Obviously, he thinks with his other head and not the one he is suppose to be thinking with! If he's gonna screw up a good thing, tell him you'll have no part of it.....
2007-07-16 02:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by GONER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should. unless you are interested in him in the same way. and of course that would definitely be bad form as well. look how he is treating his wife. if he is unhappy, then he should end the relationship. stay away from him because in my opinion, he is NO GOOD!
2007-07-14 13:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mustardseed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is no good and you should have nothing to do with him at all.
He's a jerk looking for some action on the side.
2007-07-14 13:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋