Is it because people don't want to loose credibility for being right sometimes?
*Please* Don't judge me, and don't pretend you can surmise who I am from questions...I might be a psychology student gathering a broad range of opinons and views...-OR- I might need to know on a deeper level how to deal with an important person/relationship.
2007-07-14 05:22:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Well, I think it's pretty obvious that you're a lactose-intolerant gypsy midget with acrophobia and-
Sorry about that, I'm just in a terribly sarcastic mood today :P
I think the answer to your question lies in something called "cognitive dissonance." Cognitive dissonance occurs when your behaviors do not match your beliefs. When people experience cognitive dissonance, they feel a drive (like hunger, or thirst or fatigue) to reconcile their behaviors and beliefs so they match.
When you do something you feel is wrong, you feel bad because you chose to act against your beliefs and at this point you feel a strong need to reconcile your beliefs with your actions. Most people in these situations will either try to justify what they have done (e.g., "it wasn't that bad" or "no one got hurt") or they try to cover up what they did (e.g., "if no one knows I did it I won't get in trouble").
The hardest thing of all to do is say, "I did something wrong and I'm sorry about it," because that temporarily increases your level of cognitive dissonance. You're admitting to yourself and others that you chose to act against your beliefs.
However, in the end, saying you're sorry is actually better for you than covering up your actions or trying to justify them. If you apologise for your actions, then in a sense you can leave those actions behind and distance yourself from them, as you forgive yourself and are forgiven by others. If you keep making excuses, then you'll just find yourself doing worse and worse things as you justify every bad thing you do.
Hope this helps!
2007-07-14 06:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Conrad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This forum is not for judging people but to answer questions in hopes of helping people. So here goes:
I think some people have a hard time with "I'm sorry" because they have a hard time seeing or viewing an opinion objectively. "only their opinion counts"
Some people are just insensitive and don't realize that an apology is due.
Personal relationships is an area where people often don't realize that the other is offended, but if they know they did wrong, maybe they say it in different ways, or if not they are very inconsiderate of the other. Communication in personal relationship is the only way to make it grow into something more meaningful and trustworthy.
2007-07-14 05:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all about pride and ego. It hurts when you raelize that you are wrong and someone else is right. The better person - no offense - more adult person would admit they are wrong and apologize if the situation deserved an apology or if they really cared what the other person thought of them.
Being able to admit that you are wrong in a way means you are not perfect. I know i am not perfect and do not know everything and will be the first to tell you if I am wrong I am wrong just tell me and I will suck it up but if I truly believe I am right it will never happen lol.
2007-07-14 05:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by llamma2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what block people sometimes from saying sorry, their proud. But in a relationship there is a small different, I liked what Dr.Phill say about saying sorry, that u have to make a price for the word sorry, coz if u keep saying sorry all the time, when u really want to say sorry the partner will not accept it. Coz u always say sorry anyway.
2007-07-14 07:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Fadlooola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologizing makes you vulnerable. I think of a person is not raised in an environment to ba able to handle the vulnerableness of saying sorry, then they always insist they are right, even if they deep down know they are not.
2007-07-14 05:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deanna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not personally have any issue or difficulty saying "I am sorry" when I am wrong. I rather prefer to do it and quickly so I can clear t he air. I do not try to appear to know everything, and daily I anticipate to learn something new. Many times it is through being wrong that the truth is revealed. God bless****
2007-07-14 07:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is right all the time.It doesn't make you weak to say I'm sorry.Sometimes a person has to swallow their pride and just say I'm sorry.It gets easier if you have to say it a lot,after all pride goeth before the fall.
2007-07-14 11:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Impact 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not, I have learned that it is a lot easier to admit you are wrong and apologize than it is to keep arguing a bad point.
Plus people will respect you for realizing your were wrong and grown up enough to admit it.
:O)
Jerry
2007-07-14 12:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human error is normal, But admitting it is a different story. I think it is because creditability, pride and ego.
2007-07-14 05:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, the reason is Ego + Conceit.
2007-07-14 06:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋