We've all have made mistakes throughout life, but we want to make changes. Then when we do people continue to bring up my mistakes. How can I work on not critisizing others about their wrong doings, because I sure get angry when someone brings up my mistakes.
2007-07-14 04:56:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's a difficult thing to do. We can always justify our mistakes and wrong doing, but not others. We need to allow others to be human just like we are. It took me a while to realize that too. We need to just stop sometimes and look in the mirror and realize that the very thing we're criticizing other people for doing... we're doing ourselves. The only advice I can give is, work on it everyday until it is truly driven home.
2007-07-14 05:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we bring up someone's mistakes, it could be a way to show that person our anger toward the mistake he/she made. If we direct it toward the person instead of the mistake, it only creates negative feelings such as shame or anger. Mistakes in life are unavoidable because we are human beings and each of us has our own seperate path/direction we have taken. A true winner will use the mistake to learn how to become a better person or to help others who have made the same mistake. A good way to not criticize others for their mistakes is to keep in mind how it makes us feel when someone brings attention to our mistakes. Our words are powerful and we can choose to create the negative or give positive energy to others thru kind words.
2007-07-14 12:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to consider others is great as long as you are not going to get hurt. You already have the basics and that is we are only human and we have all made mistakes and as long as we learn from those mistakes then they should not be pushed down our throats or brought up every time some thing happens.
The best way to work on not criticising others is put your self in their place and see it from their perspective and see how we would feel and then offering words of encouragement or make a joke of it and for get it
2007-07-14 12:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very rude of others to bring up your mistakes. However, it often makes people feel better about themselves to put someone else down. Don't play their games! Just answer them by saying you've learned a lot from your mistakes and are working hard on being a better person and by BEING KIND TO OTHERS.
2007-07-14 12:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person that keeps bring it up and tell him or her, yes i have made mistakes. you have made mistakes to unless your the most don't do anything person in the world. The only people that don't make mistakes are people that died so no longer alive to make them. If you wish to be friends with me stop bring up mistakes i made or for every time you do i will bring up 4 of yours. If you wish to spend 1 hour telling me about my mistakes and me telling you for 4 hours your mistakes stop telling me.
2007-07-14 12:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring up theirs.
No, no, I kid.
Just smile, and say, "We've all made mistakes. I'm just glad I've learned from them!"
As for the people who bring up your mistakes constantly, just answer those snide comments with silence.
They'll get the point without you having to be rude.
If they still don't get it, just avoid them. There's nothing you can do about it.
2007-07-14 11:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginnings of humbleness is when we can forgive ourselves, as we would have others forgive us.
When we remember that we each have the right to feel as we want, it is easier to forgive another.
When we allow an others actions to affect the way we feel, we lose the control of ourselves, and become controlled by another. This is by our choice alone.
We each have the right to do, and say as we please, so long as we do not violate an others rights in the process.
This does not include someone else's belief that they have the right to force their morals on another.
When we dedicate our spirit to humbleness, it means we know we are forgiven by ourselves, and we can then forgive another, without thinking they must forgive us.
This is their problem, and not yours.
2007-07-14 12:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that even YOU make mistakes nd you wouldnt like it if someone brought it up again cuz u know its kinda embarassing when someones brings up ur mistakes
2007-07-14 11:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you criticize someone. As God says "Take the plank out of your eye first before spotting someone else's"
Which plainly just means think about if you have the same problem as the other person before telling them of their imperfectness.
2007-07-14 12:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Katie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your aware of it and have pointed it out to other people is a step in the right direction.
2007-07-14 12:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋