Last night I lost my mucuos plug, and he didn't know exactly what it was so I found a website online and was reading it to him, and all he heard was labor.....I told him that just because I had lost my mucuos plug it didn't mean that I was going to go into labor that it could be weeks. But, he's just set that I can't go anywhere now because he don't want to be to far from home.
But, he's saying that since I was only 1 cm dialated on tuesday that it must be bigger now since I lost my plug which was about a 50 cent size. So he's driving me nuts about this stuff. How can I tell him that I can still go out and do stuff I don't have to stay in the house all the time?
2007-07-14 03:19:47 · 9 answers · asked by Torey♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh this isn't his first child, it's mine but not his so he's been through the process before.
2007-07-14 03:30:51 · update #1
How lucky you are that your husband shows such concern for you and the baby! Personally ... I wouldn't want to be too far away from home at this point in time either. But ... this doesn't mean that you should simply sit at home and wait for something to happen. As long as you don't go out alone in the car and are still within a reasonable distance of the hospital ... no problem! I mean ... you wouldn't want your labour to start up and perhaps be quite intense right away if you're 100 miles from nowhere.
Maybe you could ask him to take you to a movie, out to lunch or dinner somewhere in the neighbourhood, take a walk together or perhaps visit with friends. If you don't do something besides sitting and waiting .... you'll go stark raving mad! I'm sure he wouldn't want to experience that! LOL!!
Good luck with your labour, I wish you an easy time of it and I also wish you a happy, healthy baby ..... Enjoy life and make this a memorable time with your husband! :)
2007-07-14 03:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since this is your first child he could just be worried a little more than he should be. I'm 38 1/2 weeks and still going out and doing everything i possibly can before this baby comes. Just explain to him that you feel fine and up to it. Tell him about contractions and that if you start to get them then that means your IN LABOR. lol He should also know that the mucus plug isn't a sure sign of labor as you can lose it and it regenerates itself in about two weeks. Also some women walk about 3 or more centimeters dilated only to be induced when they passed their due date.
Hope that helps.
2007-07-14 10:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha. I lost my plug at about 30 weeks because my baby dropped so low. I was *FIVE* cm dilated at 36 weeks and stayed like that for four weeks... 1cm is nothing. I didn't go into labor till 40 weeks.
I don't know what you can tell a guy who reads a little bit on the net and thinks he's an obstetrician... I hope folks here give you enough personal stories for him to read that he'll be convinced. That's just ridiculous. It's sweet of him to take such an interest, though. Most husbands don't even want to know the details.
2007-07-14 10:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by zilmag 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think to a certain extent that the father's view matters. This child is half his after all. Just try to respect how he feels because he's obviously just trying to look out for you. He's not trying to be a control freak. Is it possible that you could save the times that you go out to a time that you could go out together? I also agree with the person who advised taking him to the doctor with you or have him call and talk to a nurse. When you do get labor pains you should still have plenty of time to get to where you need to be if you are out and about.
2007-07-14 10:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by bfldmom3 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm with the first answer. Let him follow you everywhere, mobile phone in white-knuckled hand, for a day or two until he realises the baby isn't just going to fall out into your trousers while you're out picking up some bread...
I'm having a similar problem; non-productive contractions -- no dilation, nothing -- so, big deal -- but it seems to've planted "could happen anytime!" in the other half's mind.
Last night, in a furniture store:
Me: Ow!
Him: Let's get out of here!
Me: Huh?
Just thank him for his concern and keep going on. I'd say "have your doctor or midwife tell him just how worried he needs to be," but our OB told him to "be on stand-by," and that got taken far too literally...
2007-07-14 10:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to your doctor with him and get the doctor to tell him! I know he's just being cautious for you and cares, but these guys sometimes lol!
Go to the pharmacy if you don't want to go to the doctor for this and talk to the pharmacist, get him there too and have him listen!
Hope this helps, be glad he's loving and protective :)
2007-07-14 10:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Elle3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest and most effective thing to do, from experience! Bring him to your next doctors appointment (hopefully its soon) and let the doctor explain this to him.
For some reason, my husband and others won't listen to their wives and pretty much listen to everyone else.
Good luck!
2007-07-14 10:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs Karisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just whine and say you NEED to exercise and keep on moving to keep your blood and the babys circulation healthy.
2007-07-14 10:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you don't have to tell him anything, just get up and go!
2007-07-14 10:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋