I am 25 and my husband and I have been together since I was 17. We just aren't clicking. I love him. I just think I am boring him. He is a sagitarius . I want to make things more fun in ALL areas of our relationship. P{lease give me some ideas.thanks
2007-07-14 02:37:51 · 12 answers · asked by junebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sEX is great. I just want somethimg fun.
2007-07-14 02:44:10 · update #1
I want to surprise him, He will be up for anything. Our Marriage is not on jeapardy... I just want some ideas.
2007-07-14 02:46:47 · update #2
Honey you should be asking him not us..Why don't you sit down with him and ask him what he wants.
2007-07-14 02:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be Honest, sit him down and tell him how you are feeling, ask him how he perceives the relationship. Never assume your spouse feels the same way. Ask him what might add "fun" to your relationship, you may need to "encourage/drag it out of him" many times a partner is afraid of jeopardizing the relationship by telling a "secret". If you truly wish to hear it, then tell him that whatever he thinks / fantasizes about (within reason) is fine with you. You also need to confess to him......when it is 50/50 he will be much more likely to respond. Try spending a bit more time together in a mutually enjoyed area....maybe it's gardening, theatre, camping ( you get the idea). Then understand that ALL relationships have different phases, this is merely a plateau, now it is time to rekindle and strive for something more.
2007-07-14 09:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by canuck1950 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a stealth approach? I know how totally adorable June girls can be, so it's surprising that you feel he is bored. First,
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Spend an hour a day at the gym
4. SMILE
Then I think you should become proactive in jump-starting his libido. A man who is happy in bed can't be bored. But you must adopt a totally undemanding attitude and ask nothing of him. In fact, don't even discuss it, just do it.
My advice is to regularly concentrate oral stimulation to his manhood in such a way that is relaxed and unhurried, just slow, soft, and sensuous - as if it is totally for your own pleasure and enjoyment. Again, don't ask or suggest his participation. Simply bring him to orgasm and express pleasure in doing so. Continue this daily or every time it's convenient and before long, he will become the aggressor and you will marvel at his manliness.
Good Luck
2007-07-14 09:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are implying adding other people to your sex life together with your husband don't do it. My cousin did that with another couple and her no EX-husband is married to the woman and she's finally married to someone not involved in that. So your best bet is to try the adult stores, not the tacky ones, or maybe someone here will have an idea. Definitely ask your husband what could be fun for the 2 of you. But if you want the marriage to stay in tact, do not allow others to enter your sex life.
2007-07-14 09:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how comfortable you are with going to your local adult store, but I would recommend going there together and looking for a "toy". Weather it's handcuffs or something decidedly more graphic it could lead to something much more fun at home.
Even if you aren't comfortable doing that you can always try role playing or even just having sex in a different place. Not necessarily in public but maybe right there on the kitchen counter.
2007-07-14 09:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by darkbosslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRLL!!! sagitarious men always want SPACE. if u to0 clingy, needy and whinny, they will get bored and leave. JUSt be sweet n sexy, i suggest U goin out wit ur girls, come home, seduce him (i suggest comin out the shower) and be the man!!!! take control like u never have in your life.
2007-07-14 10:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by H0tt_P!nk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is the sex good? have sex 5 times a day that will get him happy
2007-07-14 09:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sniper 6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
role play! its always a great idea to pretend to be someone your are not in the bedroom. it gives you and your hubby a chance to act out different characters and explore new sides to one another. trust me you and he both will be more than pleased!
2007-07-17 00:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by uneyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit down together and talk it through talk about your fantasies find out what each of you wants take time with each other but most important of all listen to what each other has to say dont talk over each other it worked for us good luck
2007-07-14 09:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by jaycee - 48 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you want something spicy in your marriage and sex is good then i suggest you both do the salsa on dancing with the stars...
2007-07-14 09:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋