and then 3 times while you where at work at 3 :45.
You have tried 12 times to contacted them with out success
2007-07-14 00:58:43 · 11 answers · asked by jobees 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
I don't drive and live on the other side of town.
2007-07-14 01:16:32 · update #1
'First of all thank you for being a
friend and answering the phone.
You just being there helps me through the days and nights because people like us have few friends.I am writing as a third person.
I know how busy we get with work and other things in life .I do have twenty four hours and I utilize that for all the things I have to do.
If you can't contact your friend please try and drop in and see he/she is O.K.
2007-07-14 16:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by thumba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would talk to them, of course. If they tried to call while I was at work, obviously I wouldn't be able to talk to them, but I'd call back.
It seems that what you're trying to do, though. After 12 times with no success, you're probably getting rather worried...(I know how it is to live far away from someone and be unable to drive, too.)
Okay, what I'd do in a situation like that is call my friend one more time. If the friend has an answering machine, I'd leave a message saying, "You're beginning to scare me. I want to talk to you. Are you there? Please pick up because if you don't, I'm going to call your family members/neighbors to come check on you." Then say a few more things, give your friend a chance to run over there and pick up the phone.
If he/she still doesn't answer, try calling up family members and neighbors who may be close by. If you don't know the numbers of neighbors, you might have to call information to inquire. Or check out your local phone book's website and see if you can find the phone numbers for all the people living in a certain neighborhood. If all else fails, call the police to go check on him/her. It may be nothing, but it may be serious. With mental illness, you never know, so it's best to err on the side of caution. Best of luck!
2007-07-14 09:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who must deal w/ mental illness (my own), I can tell you that your friend might have felt like she was soooo upset and couldn't thnk of anything to do but call you. Now, she's feeling better so she wonders how she could feel so upset and have the nerve to call you at such a late hour. She could be feeling ashamed for breaking down and calling you for help which is why she won't pick up the phone when you call, she's too ashamed. Just call one more time and tell her (if she picks up) or leave a message, that you are worried about her but glad she called because it's good to ask for help. Talk to her about how she's feeling (though don't push it). Also, try to see her in person ASAP and when you do, talk about going w/ her to see a therapist.
2007-07-14 08:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by NW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have had a good reason for calling you on the phone at those times but you should be concerned that you can't get ahold of them, if you know of any family that they have that live near them I would call them and see if they could go check on them since you have no transportation to get to them. If you don't know of any of their family that you can call to check on them, I would call the proper authorities or if they are with a mental health organization such as MHMR, call and see if you can talk to their case manager and explain the problem, seeing if they can go check on this person and to let you know what is going on as you are concerned and have tried 12 or more times by now to get ahold of them. Since this is the weekend you may get a hold of a crisis line and tell them the problem and see what they advise; they may decide that calling 911 is the best route to take and if they do see if you can call a friend of yours to take you to the location and see if you can be kept informed about your friend. Good luck
2007-07-14 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they called me in the early AM I would tell them I would ask if everything was okay and then tell them I was sleeping if they were okay...
If they called me at work, I would say the same thing... but I would say is everything ok,,,, and then explain do not call me at work ...
If you are truely worried that you cannot contact them, try going over the house. Maybe they left the phone off the hook.
2007-07-14 08:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by jms62394 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would answer the phone, work or no work and find out what's wrong and if there is anything that I can do.
If I couldn't leave work I would reassure my friend that I will either call them back or go see them after I finish work.
If you can't get a hold of your friend, go to their home.
2007-07-14 08:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by ƒαℓℓëñ αñGëℓ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this one before. After trying to contact her that many times, I think it's time to ask authorities for assistance. She may hate me tomorrow, but she'll be alive to be able to get mad.
Of course it all depends on the situation what the best way to handle it is.
Blessed Be
2007-07-14 11:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to their place and make sure they were alright. Keep calling and leave a message and my phone on and charged. If they are not at home. Ask someone who knows them if they have seen them since you have and just tell them that if they see them again to pass the message alone to call you or come by and see you.
2007-07-14 08:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Msbearr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good over to their house make them a coffee and TALK TO THEM sometimes a face to look at and talk to can make them cross back over that line and get help because they know that someone needs them too
2007-07-14 08:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by fenceyard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit being their savior. THen they won't rely on you for pity anymore.
seriously ,i was a "rescuer" and it only ever stressed me out and brought me down.
your mental status will be better off when you quit having such needy "friends"
2007-07-14 15:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by hallllp 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋