Is divorce no more a social stigma in India?

Question

Marriage, i have always believed is for life. However, my wife had trouble adjusting and adapting with me and decided to end up though i never told her or wished to end up because the issues according to me were unimportant. We did take counselling from my wife's aunt (who is a behavioral expert) and she reproved my wife for her behaviour towards my family and me. Now it would be 6 months since my wife let me and she has always maintained she'll not come back to me. I thought she would change her mind but has not happened so far.

Would it make sense to go for divorce now or wait for some more time? Though none of my wellwishers advices me to wait for her.

Ofcourse i as such am not concerned about the stigma (as in India, because 14 % of newly weds end up in divorce these days). But am wondering how common has it become.

(Indian cultural sensitivites are very different from that of the west)

Answer 1

I fully agree with you that in India divorce is still seen as a social stigma in some of the places, but in metropolitan cities & other bigger cities this no more is considered that as people here are more influenced by western culture & it’s a common thing out here. As far your case goes it all depends on how much time more you can give to your wife to return back, 6 months is pretty good period but if still you feel that she should be given some more time then wait for at least six more month then you get sufficient time for giving a second thought about continuing this matrimonial relationship with her or not. This also gives you the statutory time period of one year on the basis of which you both can seek divorce by mutual consent as you have been living separately for a period one year, still after filling such joint petition you get another period of not less then six months to again give a second thought about this divorce & if you feel that you can unite again you can withdraw your divorce petition ,but if you both decide to dissolve the marriage once for all then the family court will grant you decree of divorce after the time period is over. Once getting divorced you are free to choose another life partner according to your choice & considering all those issues that were lacking in your first wife so you may not get cheated the second time. In today's modern Indian society being divorcee is not considered so bad as it was few years back & as told above in ultra modern cities its rather a status symbol if you happen to be a divorcee you will be considered more advanced & ultra modern & what some call 'metro sexual'. So don't worry be prepared for such life too if it so happens with you.

Answer 2

People do enter the matrimonial alliance with faith and fervour to lead a happy married life. But sometimes despite best attempts, things do not work out the way one wants. Small faults seem big, some small issues seem irreconcilable, ego comes in... all these make the relationship sour. Sometimes each individual appears good but they become bad for one another. This is life. In your case, you have to explore all possibilities to see that she understands your problem and you too give some time and space to her for adjustment. If, in spite of all that it does not work, go ahead for divorce. After all it is your life and you need a partner with with whom you can resonate. You cannot live a lonely and forlorn life. If you take the global average, every five out of ten marriages crumble and end in divorce. Divorce is not a social stigma any more. In the past many families were ruined because of the hesitation not to seek divorce.

Answer 3

diverse is not at all a stigma in indian life, now a days. if living together has become an impossible then diverse is the better way than living together. when love is not there between two and hate each other, the place is called hell. why to make our home a hell?