my bf has been kind of a jerk lately....he says stuff like i dont care about him when i do. basically he thinks i dont care about him as much as he cares about me but i really do. then he starts saying things about me flirting with other guys and stuff when i haven't done anything at all.
what should i do about this?
2007-07-13 23:11:31 · 8 answers · asked by Mandy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
actions speak louder than words!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-13 23:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend. You've got one of two things going on, and neither of them are good.
1. He's jealous and insecure. This is not something you want to live with for more than..oh..2 seconds. Jealous and insecure men frequently try to isolate you from your friends and family, and end up being abusive.
2. He's unhappy with your relationship and is looking for an excuse to end it. He doesn't have the..guts..to just do it, so he's trying to first convince you you're doing something wrong, and then will use it as the reason he's breaking up with you.
If you aren't doing what he's accusing you of, then you need to bail. He's got a major issue, and you don't need to be around for it.
2007-07-14 06:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think if he doesn't believe you and he's being a jerk to you then he's not the guy for you. This guy doesn't trust you with other guys, but not because he loves you, it's because he can't trust you. You need a guy who will believe whatever you say because he trusts you and you trust him. You need a guy you can tell your ever little secret to because you both have a high level of trust for this guy. These are the qualities this guy your with lackes. I'm very sorry to say this to, I really am.
2007-07-14 06:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is saying this because of some insecurities that makes him constantly needing this sort of reaffirmation. It could be also that although you love him your actions are not bearing this out. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
2007-07-14 06:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, now. It sounds like he is using jealousy to control you, and he makes you feel bad about yourself by saying those things. People who do that sort of thing are only feeding their own egos, and that behavior will only get worse, not better
2007-07-14 06:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by ellen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to convince him. He has to convince you that he has gotten over this behavior. I would say withdraw when he is like that. When people get what they want by behaving badly, that encourages them to behave badly.
2007-07-14 06:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it isn't already obvious he doesn't like you anmore and he wants you to dump him so he doesn't have to break your heart and put you through the whole "but i still love you faze" and this way he can pretend that he feels really bad and all that.
2007-07-14 06:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, he is playing a game.
2007-07-14 06:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋