i have pretty good hunch my husband was preparing to have another affair. i read some emails and he denied them-not knowing i had been in his email. he won't talk to me and tell me what he is missing from our relationship to make him look elsewhere, he only denies everything and acts like i am paranoid. tonite while i am at work (still here) he figured out i have been in his email somehow because he changed all his passwords. i feel like if he is engaging in sexual talk with local women then I need to leave. the problem is we have a 18 month old baby. i don't want to leave him and deny her growing up without her dad in the house but i also don't wanna feel like i am a fool. i am also worried he will be angry when i get home. please give me some advice. i just don't know what to do. how do you have a relationship w/o trust, how can i trust him or he trust me for invading his privacy. what can i do that is best for my child?
2007-07-13 20:44:17 · 8 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're NOT the one who's failed your little girl. I picked up on the word "another" affair. I also picked up him being angry.
If you feel threatened, move out. It's that simple. Get a day job and do the single mom thing. You'll meet someone when you're ready. If he gets his act together and you two get some counseling where he's honest and repentant, you can consider reconciling.
If you're just feeling foolish, stay and fight for your marriage.
2007-07-14 02:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't admit he was or is having sexual
contacts on the Internet, you need to make plans to raise your daughter yourself. I don't think he has a right to engage in sexual communications with other live people, even virtual contact, as a right of privacy when he's married. What do you suppose he would do if it were the other way around and you were looking for sex partners on the Internet? Having a sex addict for a Dad could have bad repercussions for your daughter. You deserve to have a relationship built on trust and respect. I am sorry that you have a husband who has been a creep.
2007-07-14 03:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave,, I lived in a miserable house , where constant fighting an bickering occured,, or not talking at all, children can tell when things are not right, , just get it over with an live happily the child will be happier in the end! If the dads not a complete piece of sh.. then he will still do what he is supposed to an be there for her! You can make a happy life for your girl , an he can make a happy life for himself! Your little girl will grow up happy!
2007-07-14 03:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now, get out of the house, go to a relatives, it is becoming a dangerous enviorment for you and your baby, soon he might take out his anger on you or ur child, leave now before it is too late and tell him you not coming back till u know u can trust him, if he threatens you do not hesitate to call the police
Its better for ur daughter to have no father than a dead mother and a father in jail for life, you havent done anything wrong, you havent failed your daughter at all, get out of there now so u can give ur daughter the best chance she has
2007-07-14 03:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Cody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. I have a little girl who is now five. I was in a miserable untrusting hurting relationship with her dad. I was so unhappy that I finally said to myself. If I am this unhappy, shes going to sense that, and feel my unhappiness, and I deserve to be happy, but most of all she deserves a happy mom. She is a great kid, and I am marrying a man who loves her. Her dad walked out on her about two years ago, and she is fine. Loved by alot, hated by none, and very happy. I dont feel like I have failed her in any way at all.
2007-07-14 03:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. 26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever stay together for the sake of the child. It's a cop out. If you aren't happy, leave. The sooner you do, the more time you have to find someone better.
2007-07-14 03:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave! Because what kind of life would it be to grow up with a low life father who ******* around instead of being with his child...do what you feel is right, but I believe you should leave him.
2007-07-14 03:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by India N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him. tell him the truth. also, ask him what he wants in your marriage. coz if you two don't have anything in common anymore, better go your separate ways.
2007-07-14 03:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋