my boyfriend and i are going to college at seperate schools this fall. i am 18 and he is 19
we were thinking it would maybe be time to take the next step and get engaged sometime within the next six months.
We were planning on stayaing engaged for the next few years until things settle down in our lives with school and things. We have been together for almost three years now and are completely in love
Any advice?..it would make me feel better while we are away from eachother during the week if we were engaged i thin k....almost a sense of security..but we also both have definite intentions of marrying eachother
2007-07-13 19:47:49 · 10 answers · asked by jac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we will only be about 45 minutes apart..
and we have gone to seperate schools all throughout high school
2007-07-13 19:55:06 · update #1
You are definitely NOT too young to be engaged. But it *would* be a good idea to marry when you're a few years older. Those marriages have the best chance of lasting. And in the meantime, you can always live together, whenever you want. According to the latest stats, MORE couples are living together, now, in the USA, than are married!
2007-07-13 19:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say seperate schools do you also mean seperate states? My advice, wait to get engaged. You are going to be a part for the next 4 years and sometimes that changes things. Wait and see if you still feel the same after being apart. meeting new people and growing up a little more. Best of luck whatever you decide!
EDITED: Still though IMO wait. The change in title from girlfriend to fiancee is just words. Continue to see him, love him whatever but don't become engaged yet. Just my opinion.
2007-07-14 02:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by daviimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah....too young. Engaged for a few years? Who gets engaged for that long? Most engagements that last that long don't end up in marriage. How long have you two been together? Just try the long distance relationship.....if it doesn't work out...it wasn't meant to be. Getting engaged and staying apart is going to make both of you feel trapped and you'll feel like you want out of the relationship at times. You two are both young.....live a little....
2007-07-14 02:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by SlamDUNK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would like to point out that just because you are engaged; it doesn't mean that each of you will be faithful. Some people in your age group are really mature for their ages and can make this type of commitment and stick to it. However, college is a great experience and you wouldn't want to be totally tied down because you took that next step. If you really think that each of you are ready; AND that neither of you will have regrets by staying home at the dorms while your roommates go out dating, then by all means.... go for it. I was engaged in HS and my ex-fiance went to Germany in the Army. I stood by and watched my friends meet boys and date and was a "good girl" and only went out on group outings. He, as it turned out... cheated. Thankfully, we broke it off as now we have learned (25 years later) that we are better off as friends. My goals and needs changed drastically from his; and I believe that had we married, we would have been divorced by now. Just a little food for thought, but in the end.. only you can decide.
2007-07-14 03:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rogue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to seperate colleges, you might as well break up. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because we were going to different colleges and he said either we have an open relationship or nothing so I chose to broke up. Don't get engaged, it will hurt more when you find out he's cheating on you with one of the many loose girls that are usually at colleges. If you were meant to be together, you will be. It's like they say, if you love something let it go and if it comes back it's yours :)
2007-07-14 02:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Listen to yourself, you have been together since before you could even get a drivers license, now you are ready to commit for the rest of your years on earth? Does that make any sense at all? Go to school, study, and maybe four years from now you can move in together, and get decent jobs, then think about marriage.
2007-07-14 02:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting MARRIED at a young age is actually a very good thing. It keeps you away from unnecessary and potentially harmful relationships. You have more respect for the opposite sex because your are married to one. You will gain a sense of security and belonging that nothing else in the world can give you.
I think you should get engaged and get married as soon as possible!
You won't be one of those parents that are in their 40s and have children in their toddler years.
Plus, you can be a young grandma! : D
Go for it! And good luck!
2007-07-14 02:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by lambo5688 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't see a problem with that... maybe cuz I'm young to lol. Don't rush marriage though! But a long engagement doesn't hurt!
2007-07-14 02:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by SOPHIA L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey a ring will not give you security... only trust will...
If you love each other and want to be together it will happen.. if its meant to be... nothing will change that..
2007-07-14 02:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rebel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a stupid idea and you know it.
2007-07-14 02:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by nobudE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋