Kinda seeing a married man, this past week though he keeps bringing up his wife in conversation. He rarely has anything to say about her, but this last week he keeps telling me about his daily life and what she's doing around the house...just basic stuff but the woman is coming up. Is he just talking or trying to tell me something?
2007-07-13 19:37:11 · 41 answers · asked by Candy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably trying to tell you that he feels guilty that he is cheating on his wife
2007-07-13 19:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well... I fell for a married guy myself (I didn't know he was married until after I fell for him) and I know how hard it can be to not have an affair when ur in love with someone even though u know they are married.
It takes a lot of will power and constant reminders to yourself that society will never accept you, that if he's cheating on his wife, he will cheat on you, You DON'T want to be the "other woman".
Tell yourself this everyday and remember that no matter what he's never gonna leave her for you. She(his wife) is still the top priority in his life. No matter how hard you wanna believe that he loves you, he doesn't.
You're just a play thing for him....
I know it's hard to take.
I read your other question too and yes, marriage is still very much sacred.
You've seen how people on Answers are judging you. People in the real world are gonna be the same.
So, get out of this relationship as soon as possible.
It's the best for ALL concerned. Especially you.
2007-07-13 22:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are making the biggest mistake of your entire life.
Married people who cheat are ****** up. Period. SO now, you probably LOVE this guy right? Of course you do.
He is trying to tell you that your affair is coming to an end, that he is realizing he is making a mistake.
Find a NON-married person to go out with, before you have to spend like 10 years telling everyone about this and wondering if YOU were a bad person. YOU WILL BE ****** UP IN THE END. PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Sorry sweetie, you see already how many people are calling you all kinds of names and saying how bad you are! You are not the bad one. However, what you don't realize is this married man probably has no idea of what the hell he is even
doing. He doesn't LOVE you, and he isn't going to leave his wife. He IS going to Break your heart. 100% Guaranteed. I'll bet you are jealous about the wife, right? Keep this in mind...
How CAN you be jealous? I really like LULU's answer below:
2007-07-13 19:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by zanthus 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl just listen and enjoy the money
What you're trying to do break the marriage up.
F**cking a married man mean having fun and getting paid
You never let you're emotions get involved over something that's not yours
What goes around comes around
I'm not saying that it is wrong to be with a married man because if it wasn't you it would have been somebody else.
but you're fulfilling something that he's not getting a home he's not looking for a love connection and neither should you.
2007-07-13 19:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by justusmiangel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Kinda seeing a married man"? That's a new one. Either you are or you're not.
What baffles me about your post is how you seem to be confused (for lack of a better word) as to why he keeps bringing up his wife. Perhaps it's his conscience spilling over into his conversation. I mean, someone's conscience needs to, since yours obviously abandoned you.
Ask yourself what right you have to this man. He's someone else's husband. Don't you think you deserve better? Honestly! There a probability of 99.99999% that he's NOT going to leave his wife for you; and if he did, would you really want him? Break the cycle, sweetie.
2007-07-13 19:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Prodigalchild 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's feeling guilty.
Unless they absolutely, 100% have an open relationship where they feel completely comfortable with their spouse seeing someone else, getting into a relationship with a married man only leads to to stress, trouble and heartache for all the parties involved.
I don't mean to lecture but let's face it: any man who cheats on his wife is insulting and disrespecting you and his wife.
2007-07-13 19:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'll answer the question: You are probably reading into things but you will also both get caught eventually. you are just asking for trouble. Most married don't leave their wives because they can have their cake and eat it too
My opinion: Even though he is cheating on HIS wife, you are still aware of his wife and that makes you equally responsible. I can't imagine why you would do that.
2007-07-13 19:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you even have the NERVE to ask this question.
"YOUR married man" hmm....kinda an oxymoron don't ya think considering he's not exactly yours??
GROW UP and get some morals while you are at it.
Put your place in this poor woman's shoes? How can you expect to have a healthy, decent relationship with a married man? Do you think this has any long term value? I think not. If he is doing it with you...he will do it on you!
What goes around, comes around.
Find a guy who isn't attached, are you that desperate?
2007-07-13 19:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you may be "seeing a married man" but he isn't "seeing you". He's giving you a signal that he's married. You're suppose to take that as an indication that he's taken. So, don't think of him in a romantic way anymore. If you've been romantic with him.... then shame on you.
2007-07-13 19:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Zeltar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personal experience.. Your're not an awful person. He's probably telling you how awful his wife is to him and how unhappy she makes him. If he hasn't left her yet or is not in the process of leaving her he's not going to. Don't let him try to tell you that its for the sake of the kids either (if he has any). Like someone on here told me when I asked pretty much the same question. He wants some spice on his steak, and your the spice.
2007-07-13 21:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be the woman on the side, but if that's what you like.... He may be trying to tell you that she's not so bad afterall. If you don't like hearing about his wife, just find someone who isn't married. This is a no-win situation, honey.
2007-07-13 19:41:31 · answer #11 · answered by Neica 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋