My husband (20 years older than me) asked me to promise him that I would never have serious or / and intimate relationships with ANY man after his death.
What do you think ? Would you say "yes" ?
2007-07-13 18:43:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe me, he is a great husband.
He is taking care of me and the family VERY well (emotionally, physically and financially).
He is making sure that I'm happy/satisfied in all areas now and after he dies. However this question really bothers me. He demands my answer/promise "yes" and you might think that I'm silly, but I can't lie to him. Also I don't think it's right to promise not to have any relationships after he dies. On another hand, I can't imagine myself now having relationship with other men (even after his death).
Very confusing...
2007-07-13 19:02:54 · update #1
I'm 34 years old and we have 3 kids.
2007-07-13 19:16:32 · update #2
he says that if he would be on my place...he wouldn't get into any relationship no matter what.
he might be honest or just selling his point of view...
2007-07-14 03:34:59 · update #3
I would promise to remain faithful to your husband even after he passes.
This will give him peace of mind and make him quit worrying, but what you do after he dies is up to you.
I am a firm believer in self preservation and you are 20 yrs younger than him
2007-07-13 18:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although marriage is until "Death do us part.." I see where you two are coming from. I'm catholic and I don't think I can remarry. I know that the church would let me but I would have a hard time letting go. I would tell him the truth. It's okay to be confused. Tell him, how much you love him.. that there will never be another man to replace him in any way. That you will be faithful in charishing and value the life you two lived.
That you can't be sure what God will be in your way. That you can't see it happening but you don't know the future.. whatever life holds.... he'll be in heaven.. so ask him to take care of you.. and help guide you through the difficult time. Of course.. this is if you believe in spirits... Tell him you expect it to be years.. that by the time you get over him.. YOu might be too old to marry. And that IF there is a next person.. they;ll know that HE was first.. and that's the place he'll always hold. And that his stuff will never go to another man. End of story.
2007-07-13 19:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird question from my older husband?
2014-12-14 23:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a selfish a**. Doesn't he want you to be happy? I'm sure if anything happened to you, he would remarry and even find someone younger! He's totally insecure! And he's affraid you might find someone closer to your age and find out what life should have REALLY been like instead of being with an old geezer! LOL!!
2007-07-13 18:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I talked about it and he joked around about how heaven is full of all the hot sluts, so I shouldn't stay single on Earth while he's getting slutty christian chicks in heaven. I think I would laugh at him and remind him that marriage is until death either that or just tell him yes to shut him up and then when he dies, do what I please.
2007-07-13 18:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him there could not be a replacement and that sex isn't what he should worry about .... I would wonder why he didn't love me enough to want me to try and find some happiness in life after he was gone.. I would tell him that he would not have to worry about material so far stretched .and that the SEX would not be the replacement for the man.....
2007-07-13 19:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by remi m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How likely is it to get pregnant on day 8 of your cycle?
2017-03-27 20:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very selfish on his part. You can say whatever you want to him. When he's dead, he won't know what's going on anyway.
2007-07-13 19:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a man who cares asks that you do have relationships afterward so that you are financially secure and not lonely.
I guess yours is not too preoccupied with that.
Why is he so possesive?
2007-07-13 18:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Bunky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband make me crazy?
2016-11-29 04:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Banky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋