We want to invite 150 people for our wedding, but it looks like we are going to go over...and we have a budget that we want to keep. Would it be rude if I invite people to come to our ceremony but not the reception? OR since our reception venue allows us to stay as late as we want, so would it be ok to invite other friends to come after dinner for the dancing and music? I am so torned!!
2007-07-13 18:40:50 · 14 answers · asked by Helen78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
omg so RUDE! yes very very rude!
you can not invite someone to PART of the wedding. you can not let them watch you get married, not feed them, them have them come back to dance.
it will make people class A and class B guests and that is a huge no no. they should not have to pay for the fact you have gone over budget.
you either need to cut the list or scale back something for the wedding. maybe not have a limo or something. but i would never ever suggest having ceremony only guests.
2007-07-13 18:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
It used to be okay to invite people to the reception (and that was the entire reception) but not the wedding, however, that was only when the wedding was a civil ceremony with two wittnesses and no guests. And that was many years ago. Stick to your budget and cut your guest list.( You can have another party for people you couldn't invite at another time.) Alternatively, change your menu, make it buffet instead of a dinner with waitstaff, or just serve finger foods. Also consider having a DJ and not a band, maybe a friend could serve as DJ. In a nutshell, the two important things to remember are: stick to your budget and invite everyone you invite to the whole thing!
2007-07-13 21:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You only invite the number of people you can host for everything. The same people are to be invited to the ceremony, dinner, and reception. It's rude otherwise. If it's a budget problem, either limit the number of guests, or change the style of wedding.
2007-07-14 01:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Formal invites should go out to only the people you can afford to have at both the reception and ceremony.
Inviting people to just the ceremony with a formal invitation and then only having a select group go to the reception will result in hurt feelings.
A better way would be to tell friends or coworkers who you can not afford to invite that you, they are welcome to the ceremony. A friend did that, but she could only afford family at the reception, but friends were welcome to see the ceremony. No formal invitation was given to friends and we understood. I think friends are more understanding.
2007-07-14 00:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. This is very uncool. You mentioned a budget. Just remember when someone is invited to a wedding they end up spending their money ( which might have been budgeted for something else) on clothes, cards, gifts, transportation and sometimes wedding showers and more gifts etc. etc. etc.because you decided to invite them to be part of your big day. Dont forget to think of the value of all the gifts your raking in when it comes time for providing food and drinks. To even think of not inviting some of your guests to the reception is brutally wrong and selfish.
2007-07-13 18:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It would be very rude. I know if that happened to me, I would feel like I was not very important to you, but second priority. :(
You could have two receptions...?? But don't only invite them to the wedding and then not invite them to the reception/ only invite them for part of it. Good Luck :) Have a great marraige!!
2007-07-13 18:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've met people who were only invited to the reception before and that seems to be okay if the church is small. But it is in poor taste I think to invite someone only to the church or for 'after' dinner.
Narrow down your list.
2007-07-13 18:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kristy K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it rude to ask people to come to your ceremony but not your reception? Very rude.
Asking friends to come after dinner? Very rude.
2007-07-14 00:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that would be a big ettiquette faux pas. I second everything the first poster says. Cut down on the guest list, or cut costs elsewhere in your wedding, or try to come up with additional funds. Good luck to you.
2007-07-13 20:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. The whole idea is rude.
2007-07-14 09:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋