2007-07-13 18:20:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Is this person suggesting that becuase he/she is okay that it is okay to hit their own children/somebody elses children?
You just simply come right out and say, well maybe YOU are okay - but YOU are the minority. Most people are NOT okay after abuse.
Now, if we're talking a smack on the butt or hand every once in a while, then I think the person WOULD turn out okay. If we're talking getting beat... I know how that is. My mother used to hit me when I was little for no other reason than the fact that she was young, in an abusive relationship, and needed something to take her anger out on. .... to this day I remember the way I felt when it happened. And it brings back terrible memories.
So just say it. Your the minority. Not everybody is okay after abuse. It could stay with a person their entire life
2007-07-15 02:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was hit as a child, hell I was beaten as a child and I am not only alright, I know that I am NOT in the minority. I worry about the kids who were verbally abused more than those of us who were hit. They don't know how to cope any other way than psychological warfare and that freaks me right out. Someone comes at me like they are going to attack me, they are going down!
2007-07-13 20:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they probably are not ok, but, what business is it of yours? This is very personal and if the person is not open to learning the emotional impact of childhood experiences, it really will do no good to address it and it is out of place to try to do so.
Incidently, most people that were beaten think it is just fine to do - and almost always will say, they were beaten and "I turned out just fine". Only those open to exploring are able to consider it and it should be explored with a professional as this is usually quite painful when it is finally faced.
2007-07-14 12:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you have some inside information that they are the "minority" ? Where do you get your statistics from? I'd be willing to venture that a majority of folks got spanked as children and they turned out just fine, if not respectable.
Just because your views differ in regards to child discipline does not make your view in the majority. Unless you have hard cold facts to back it up, don't make absurd, baseless statements.
2007-07-13 18:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by C J 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hit as in abused or hit as in spanked? There is a big difference. Unfortunately your friend probably isn't "okay". Most likely there are emotional issues that this person hasn't dealt with or maybe they have through therapy. Either way if a child is abused there are repercussions from that.
2007-07-13 18:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sara R 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are referring to being hit with a fist..then yeah they are.
If you are referring to being spanked as being "hit" then I would say you are wrong. Most everyone I know including myself was swatted as a child. Not abused, but spanked as a last resort. And it worked the majority of the time.
I have met many people that were not disciplined with spanking as children (especially when I worked in childcare), and there was a huge difference!
A quick swat to the rear shows a child that there are consuquences to their actions.
2007-07-13 18:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Summertime 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Most people were hit as chilrden, at least in my generation. Don't know how true it is now, but probably most still are.
Few people are really okay. Many, maybe most, will appear okay usually, but there is that thing hdden away. I don't there are very many people who are really okay.
How do you tell them? Why bother? They feel okay, so why disturb them?
2007-07-13 18:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by bahbdorje 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
how do you know they are the minority? i have known a LOT of people throughout my life who were abused and every single one of them turned out more than okay. to say that to them would be extremely rude. you do not know what they went through, and you most definitely should not shoot down their pride in their ability to make something good out of a horrible situation.
so to answer your question: you don't say that.
2007-07-13 18:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by jack_skellington49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back-hand them. It may not phase them, but you sure as hell are going to feel a bit better by having let out a smidgen of all the pent up ... frustration you gathered - I know it helps me.
2007-07-13 18:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Edhelosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
but
being okay is a minority
most people are not okay
so exactly what are you trying to convey here?
i was beat
and im fine
HE has Risen
2007-07-13 18:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋